I was spanked (a little) and I was a heroin addict for ten years. I'm pretty sure my addiction was a result of emotional abuse and various personality factors, not spanking. But if anyone wants to use my addiction as a reason not to spank your kids, go for it. My parents stopped when I was about 5 or 6, maybe they…

I was also 12 when this movie came out, and also identified with it, except I identified with the Winona character — I was (am) skinny-ish, dark hair, big dark eyes, bookish, thought I was (am) super deep, thought Ethan Hawke was super deep too... But you're right, reading through these lines now is making me feel…

The vast majority of feminists have no problem with stay at home moms. You are thinking of the radical feminism of the 70s, or something. Feminists today can do pretty much whatever the fuck they want, we aren't all hairy-legged, bra-burning, obnoxious man-haters. Hell, I'd love to be a stay at home mom if my man…

Lots of people, if given that choice, would either pick nothing or they would pick fascist to prove a point. Lots of people think feminism IS fascism. Hell, I've known a lot of liberal, cool, smart women who found the idea/movement of feminism totally repellent, because their idea of it was fed to them BY THE…

Me too!! I thought it was a picture from a video game or something. When I saw the headline about Kendall, I was really confused.

Because he has a skin condition, and then shaves to get even more ingrown hairs. And it looks like grass blades because he's filming through a microscope. Didn't you read the article?

I don't understand how people can doubt that Dylan is telling the truth. Just LOOK at the hate being poured on her from all sides. Do you think someone would risk that experience, and the humiliation of admitting something SO PERSONAL, not to mention all the people denying or doubting that she's telling the truth. …

Um, that's not why they photoshopped him in that outfit... it's because the actual photo was taken with him in an oragon jail jumpsuit.

Usually people are most abusive to the people they know the best. I have seen this in my life at least 20 times, about half of which involved me directly, the others were friends. One of my abusive exes would be super nice to everyone around him and then take everything out on me. His best friend asked me why I…

I should have been more specific: I don't believe in redemption in cases of the *abuser*... redemption is perfectly possible for issues like depression, anxiety, addiction, being a survivor of abuse, etc. In fact I don't think of those things as requiring redemption because they aren't "wrong" (as in, they only…

Although, of the two of them, I *FAR* prefer Lawrence. She's better than a lot of female stars, but the trying too hard is still annoying.

I totally agree. I've only seen her in Silver Linings Playbook, but she (and the movie) were great! But her stupid public persona is so annoying, it's trying so hard to be charming and quirky... There are legitimately quirky/weird stars who don't annoy me, but she is just so obvious about it. What's even more…

I'm not a believer in redemption. Two of my abusive relationships involved a year-long separation (I left both of them, and then went back to them after they swore up and down that they'd had counseling and weren't abusive anymore). Both of them went back to being abusive within a week of me going back. In fact,…

I didn't have insurance, but other people in my group had it, and it covered the program for them. Most medium to big cities have at least one place that does DBT. From the Wikipedia entry: "DBT combines standardcognitive-behavioral techniques for emotion regulation and reality-testing with concepts of distress…

My brother's first journalism job was at the Grand Forks ND daily paper (he's a sports writer/editor now). It was a great first step to other careers. I'm about to finish my J degree as well, and if I found a job in the middle of Kansas writing about bake sales, I would fucking go there. After making minimum wage…

I was a heroin addict for 11 years (IV... and I read that 90% of female IV drug addicts were abused as children, and I wasn't, at least not physically/sexually, so it seems extra bad to me)... I also dealt with eating disorders, codependent and abusive relationships, doing any drug/alcohol to excess (basically…

For one thing, she's the main character and gets a lot more screen time. I know Alison Williams won't do nudity, too.

If your problem is anxiety, I would recommend Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. DBT is like CBT, but with more stuff like mindfullness, some very light meditation, and super easy stuff you can do anywhere when you feel anxiety and/or panic attacks. Technically it's for people with Borderline Personality Disorder, like…

Did they forbid the Katy Perry video where she's naked on a cloud? How about Lady Gaga's ARTPOP video, which I heard involves nudity? In all of these cases, you never actually SEE any nipple or anything. I'm kind of surprised they kicked off Britney, too.

Yeah, I can be assertive in most of my life, but when I'm stuck next to someone on a plane for hours, I lose my nerve. And I always feel like the person should just KNOW that they are elbowing me — I mean, it's their elbow! If they are ignoring the fact that we're touching, I get nervous that it's because they're a…