Yeah, I didn't like that comment either. Unhelpful kneejerk reductionism. It just basically reduces the issue down to "This happens because men suck". Just not worthy of discussion, for real.

Because of your experiences, a lot of laws have changed. (In fact, I know more men with fulltime custody than women, and more than a few have ex-wives who describe your mother.) So people were watching and did notice, and took action - at least on the Left Coast.

Eh, Im over it. He moved to california 13 years ago and now my brother has 3 beautiful(if spoiled) kids, an amazing wife and My mom is happy and healthy and my brother and I wound up being successful. He got to see none of that, nor will he. His memories will be of me when i was a teenage asshole and my brother…

I wasn't trying to jump all over you. Just a point that like, reading through cases all day. Man, things courts said in 1985 are WORLDS away from things courts said yesterday. What happened to me as a kid wouldn't happen again now.

I agree that feminists should be (and often are!) completely in favor of more custody for men. It's like that article that came out recently about how mandatory paternity care is good for working women because it normalizes the idea that men take care of kids.

just so you know, you made it perfectly clear in your OP that this was your personal experience. You made it clear when you said

Yeah, I mean — I hear you. I don't want to get too personal here since I'm not anonymous here and I don't want to make anyone I care about who might be reading mad, but someone close to me was affected in a shitty way by custody laws. A good father who loved his children and wasn't responsible for the marriage…

I'm with you on that. Also, your story is very similar to our current situation, though the kids live with us (but yes, we still pay child support and a lot of it).

That did come off a little strong. I got what you were saying and kind of hijacked it to make my own point. Sorry. Because I think a lot of the conflict that feminists have with the MRAs is that their proposed solutions to real problems are often awful. I think that a strong argument can be made that there is a…

I'm sure as a childless couple it is very obnoxious getting all the "You should have babies/would be happier with babies" statements from folks, but as a youngish mom who reads mostly feminist and the like material I feel like all I see is "We are so much better off with kids. See? Get it?"

Molloy's question (or non-question, technically) was poorly stated, but I really don't think he was policing bodies or saying "your nudity offends my penis" (at least I don't after having read his follow-up blog post).

No one should send this guy hate-filled racist comments. No one. He is doing a great thing here and that picture is sweet as pie.

Grapeseed oil has a high smoke point (420) that is great for your average saute. Its my main cooking oil. I use EVOO, walnut oil, and/or flaxseed oil for finishing and dressing stuff. The flaxseed isn't for flavor, its because I don't eat a lot of meat and fish is expensive as hell. I needs me my omega 3s. I…

EVOO is bad for cooking because it has a low smoke point and getting it too hot will give you cancer. Other types of olive oil are fine for cooking though, Italians only use EVOO cold and for finishing dishes. Coconut oil is good for some dishes but yea, it's just a trendy thing. People probably think that Pink…

Yes, the problem is that olive oil has a very low smoke point where it starts to burn, so it's best used in salad dressings or drizzled over pastas after they already been cooked. Coconut oil has a relatively high smoke point.

my dad, 50-yr-old down to earth stoner, could care less about celebs or pop culture about anything other than Neil Young, but he just moved to nyc and lives on the same block as Cameron (her boyfriend maybe?). they've ended up walking their dogs at the same time of day on a pretty regular basis, and she has officially…

I feel like that would be me and my husband if we found out I was pregnant. Big sad faces.

My fur son came from the Downey shelter, too! Actually he was pulled by a rescue at one of the Best Friends adoption events at the tar pits, then I was his foster failure through the rescue. But stillllll, paw bumps!

I want her to grow up to be a Super Villainess determined to genetically engineer a dragon for world domination.

The expression on her face is the exact expression you get when someone starts sticking their finger in your butt juuust a little and you're surprised but a little confused and trying to decide if you should go with it or make them stop immediately.