You wouldn’t be selfish. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible, and you need to be. You deserve to find what makes you happiest. If you need something that they can’t/won’t give you, then this is only going to get worse.

I’d like to add something to that. I had a girl who did this and really, I found out she didn’t want a big deal about dating a girl (me), and didn’t really want to continue dating. So there’s one red flag. Regardless of the reason, she didn’t consider the fact that you were dating important, which says a whole lot

She’s a “Foodie”, she is already an asshole.

Dear Exacting Extravert,

Are you familiar with Hanlon’s Razor? Never attribute something to malice when ignorance is just as likely?

NerdLove’s Razor: never assume fucking when “afraid of awkward confrontation” is just as likely.

Other possibility - and one that I didn’t really feel like going into in the letter, which was long enough as it was - She didn’t think of what they were doing as being serious enough to call it “dating”. If they’d lasted longer, that might have changed.

The one-month mark is pretty damn early to start putting labels…

I dunno. It doesn’t really track on face value. Does the guy never talk? I mean it’s too weird. I think there is a major misinterpretation on the part of the letter writer, either of his relationship with this woman or with her relationship to this guy.

Hard as it may be to accept, this is absolutely true.

This times infinity. I have 2 chronic medical conditions and my wife has significant mental health issues. Known each other for 15 years (we were very young), and married for almost 9 of them. Our daughter is our life, but holy hell the intimacy has taken a turn for the worse. Its hard to communicate this fact with my…

No chronic disease is real and the person in the first post sounds like they have Crohn’s or UC. Something you definitely don’t want to have.

Yeah this girl is barely involved with the guy. Cut your losses, date one of the countless people that don’t bring extra, never-ending work to the relationship. It’s your life too, you don’t have to suffer just to appear “noble” or whatever.

Relationships with chronic illness are extremely difficult, especially when intimacy becomes a problem. Don’t let it drag on for years or you’ll find yourself in a supremely depressing situation. Don’t ask me how I know this :(

Well.... President Obama is a Constitutional Law scholar, and a successful politician, and generally a pretty cerebral guy.

Yes, just keep employing those false equivalencies for Obama and Trump.

Pretty fitting - between Whiplash and Bleed for This, ‘carry on after a car crash’ is sort of his schtick. Glad everyone is okay!

I feel like most things, inadvertently, have an anti Trump message.

Okay, so you can stick with your blind faith, I’ll keep encouraging people to investigate and/or call others out on things they clearly have no clue about, especially when it deals with braying about national security in public.

This is probably one of the guys who thought “Rogue one” had a secret anti-Trump message. If evil space nazis remind you of the guy you voted for, you may have made a mistake

Relax? When the president-elect is an idiot with the attention span and ability to convey nuanced positions of a 10 year old? Nope.

My big concern is that Trump doesn’t understand that nuclear weapons are never meant to be used. We maintain our nuclear arsenal, their delivery and command and control systems to deter nuclear attacks from other countries or non-state actors. Their purpose is to create in the mind of a potential nuclear aggressor the…