Please don’t be this guy. The “well, I’m from this group and I think it’s fine” guy.

I’m also Mexican. I think it’s stupid. Obviously this is nowhere on the same level as some of the racist things people have said to my face, but that doesn’t mean I want some idiot running around in a serape all day.

Yes! Zoe Kravitz and Jemima Kirke have this too! I’m an old millenial (31) and also have arm tattoos. While the decision to get each one was kind of spontaneous, the designs, placements, and scale in relation to each other and my body were very much thought out.

Also his opening line is some bullshit nerd fantasy trope that’s been around since, like, the 50s “oh the jock has the girls now because of his looks but I’ll get them later with my com-pu-ter money!”

No, asshat. People want to be in a relationship with a likable person not just a bank account or good looks. Get a…

Don’t bring it up. Live well below your means. When you find that person to share your life with- propose with a huge fucking rock, then take her to your mansion in Paris and tell her that you were always rich, but you wanted her to fall in love with you, not your money.

Everything about The Nerd From High School Grown Up’s letter rubs me the wrong way. Let’s start off by finding out from your exes why your relationships failed. The fact that they dated you for up to two months means they tried to give you a chance. Either you are dating women you are incompatible with or there are…

Cool your jets man guy, I’m already planning our wedding ceremony.

It is to me. Hell, I’ll marry that guy right now

It kinda bothers me that CN’s main question is ‘how do I get people to try the thing I like/am comfortable with so I can talk about it without feeling judged’ than how to better relate to people different from him.

JBH (native Oregonian), their donuts are sugar flavored flour blobs fed almost exclusively to tourists. The sell donuts so people can take an instagram pic, not because they taste particularly good.

Try being 7 1/2 hours apart. Monday-Friday. For 13 years. Because my job is too good to quit and hers is also too good to quit.

I think the drive is just an excuse so this guy can blame him wanting to bang every other girl that smiles at him on the love of his life being SO FAR AWAY, because goddamn is that ever a trivial distance.

Yeah I was going to say the same fucking thing. Like I know 1.5 hours can be a long ways for some people in some states but I live north of Houston. An hour drive to go to some places is just the norm.

Yeah, the guy isn’t willing to put in the work to make an hour commute, he sure as hell isn’t going to put in the work to have healthy poly relationships. And he’s not even willing to put in the work to stay true to Janet. SPOILER ALERT: We’ve all felt lust. Guh, he sounds so entitled and lazy in his love life.

An hour and fifteen minutes away? Some people’s daily commute is longer than that...

Preach.

I just want to throw this little tidbit out there: whenever an article talks about a dude cheating, the results are usually not nice, but they’re never “you’re crazy” or “You should kill yourself” or “you are literally the worst person alive”.

At the end of the day, it’s just sex. Don’t focus on the sex. Focus on the WHY.

Agreed 110%. I figured throwing the disclaimer in there was only fair.

Agreed with all of this, but you’re in a poly relationship which may skew things.

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