I also had an affair with MJ.

@ronniedobbs: I don't get what you're asking.

@girlmeetsworld: precisely. I guess I'm just annoyed because "sex tourism" (as far as I've encountered it) is an understood euphemism for what you described, and extending that term to a situation far less horrific makes it easier for people to think of it as a grey area.

@AmosTrue: well, they are prostitutes. or escorts, gigolos, whatever, meaning that they are benefiting economically from the situation.

@ronniedobbs: I'm not saying they aren't exploiting power dynamics or indulging in weird colonialist fantasies, I just don't think the distinction should be blurred under one vague term.

"how to do it right" is so subjective. wouldn't it just end up being your mom telling you to wear makeup like she wears it?

@MizJenkins: exactly. the power dynamic here is unsavory, but the "boyfriends" are free to leave. and they seem to be profiting economically and status-wise from it, whereas 12 year old Thai girls are not.

The difference between this and a lot of male sex tourism is that these dudes are free agents, consenting and and operating independantly. Is there is an industry of pimps and brothels selling vulnerable boys to female sex tourists? I don't think they should call it the same thing.

@Sasha Reptilia McFearless: yup. but assertive non-white women with their own ideas, they're just so scary, so let's praise this vapid girl (newly bleach blonde) for pantomiming what could have been, that should be enough.

@pssshwhatever: but she does it while being blonde and wriggling provocatively, therefore acceptable.

Grace Jones is my hero. <3<3<3

@la.donna.pietra: This happens to me ALL THE TIME, and has actually increased since I started university. As in they actually walk over to whoever I am having a conversation with and talk over me, and it's the most demoralising thing ever, to the point where I don't even bother speaking when I am in a group anymore.

@CynicalPink: Seriously. At the very least, they knew the associations that are made with fraternities, and they were happy to attach that reputation to their name. Serious side-eye from me.

@Zulkey: Assuming he is for real, I really wonder how this kind of person operates in daily life. Surely he has a mother? Surely he has to interact with women in work/social situations? How does that work?

@Grim Reaper of the Forest: Yup. I can see why, once you're alive, death seems scary and you want to protect others from it, but you can't pass your own fear of mortality as genuine concern for a fetus who has no awareness of anything but life in the womb, which it is going to be forced out of either way.

@Grim Reaper of the Forest: Your first paragraph is what I've always thought.

@Acolyte: lol, pretty sure that's the point,. oh, terry richardson, such brilliance.

@Sukie: My only problem with your comment was this "skinny = like a little boy" mentality, which you repeated in your reply. The idea that some women's bodies are less "womanly" than others', especially when told to me by other women, I find ridiculous.

@Sukie: That's awesome and I am happy for you, but how does likening women who don't look like you to "14 yr old boys" and not "womanly" solve the problem we should be facing together?

@kittiquin: Yeah, that's why I was liking her at first. It's mostly her interviews and this "dying for my fame, isn't suffering glamourous" nonsense that I'm mad at.