There is a saying (some say Japanese but I have no proof of this) that we have 3 faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends and your family. The third face, you never show anyone.

All of this. I listened to a podcast recently and they were talking about mental illness. The guest said something like, “Sometimes you don’t know the thoughts in your own head, so how can you ever think you know what someone else is thinking?” It really resonated with me. And it really applies in these situations.

Ugh, I think we as a society need to let go of the idea that people can be neatly divided into “good” or “bad” because our inability to understand that human beings are complex enough to be genuinely capable of both admirable qualities and truly heinous acts constantly leads us astray. You can be a genuinely good (as…

It’s never the woman you know either. It’s never the opinionated, happy-seeming, confident woman being abused. It’s never the happy mother, the dedicated wife, the accomplished physician. That woman would never be abused. She would stop it. She would not put up with that kind of thing. Her upbringing didn’t…

I always star ghee. Good choice.

Wypipo love a racially ambiguous person until they are reminded that that person is Black. 

She should also mention the pressure we feel from our own community to keep quiet to protect our men.

I’m sorry you lost your Dad.

“I worry that she is either a passing fad, or a harbinger of a Democratic Tea Party of sorts.”

On the one hand, I want to believe in Ocasio-Cortez, as she is a much-needed breath of fresh air in Congress, but I worry that she is either a passing fad, or a harbinger of a Democratic Tea Party of sorts. 

The skepticism of Ocasio-Cortez speaks to the broader classism, sexism, and racism that characterizes so much of the way things work on the Hill and in elite media spaces.

As long as the jackets are made from actual Canadian geese I’m ok with them.

Is it just me, or was anyone else acutely and painfully aware of whose families had money and whose came from the less-desirable parts of town? We did. We practically knew every household income, what cars they drove, what sports they could afford, etc etc etc 

Dear Maureen,

There is, I believe, a conversation that could be had about an unease we (black people) might have with the Obamas’ post-White House relationship with money.

To the other commenters, where did they act like they cured inequality? They proved a point and people, like local news, took notice. That’s like step #1 of deconstructing white supremacy - using your privilege to not only acknowledge it exists but also right the wrongs it produced.

I see this divergence around what’s…

They don’t especially give a shit about black fetuses, either, except to the extent that they can use them as political tools.

Yeah, I was thinking about the numbers he spouted, and what that shows is a high level of responsibility from young black women (to the point in your last sentence). It’s yet another echo of the continuing legacy of slavery. Take these two scenarios:

1) Young white woman, living in poverty, punished by her religion and…

This is such a great article, Mr. Young. I was beaten as a child, with a large wooden paddle, and by the time I was four, I learned to stop crying because if I cried, the beatings lasted longer. I was determined never to strike my children.

I like how you posted three articles that actually gave parents responsible ways to “discipline” their children and the only take away you could infer was that children hate discipline and psychology is dumb.