Thank you! I wish WOC would share these stories more often.

I hear you and I appreciate you telling your story.

I’m not disagreeing with any of that. I’m just not ignoring her responsibility to herself. Someone as reticent as Grace appears to be is only safe in the most charitable of company, which in this world means - not safe at all.

Well, here is where we differ. It seems to me that she did want everything remotely sexual to stop. They didn’t have PIV, but she took part in that article precisely because she didn’t want what happened. I don’t think she really wanted any of it other than the least aggressive kissing. She wanted him to play with her…

I’m not disagreeing with you; that’s why I think he’s an asshole for not erring on the side of caution. That said, I’m an old woman & when I mean “No, stop touching me everywhere” - that is what I say. To me, “chill” could mean, “that’s not working”. Especially, when you stay. This isn’t someone she knew at all. As an…

Yes, the situation read as ambiguous to me. Here’s the thing, I can believe that Grace felt violated & believe Aziz is an asshole, but not a criminal.

White feminism is the proverbial snake eating its tail. I don’t look to them for allyship (getting sick of that word anyway) because they don’t know what they are about.

Closure for me is the Serenity Prayer & then peace the fuck out. It is about letting go & that is it.

Thank you, I needed that....

I get it. My family tends to retire down south, but I can’t deal personally. Me & humidity are not cool. I’m not remotely Christian (or willing to pretend). I also like being close to Canada (when shit gets really fucked here).

You know what effect #MeToo has actually had on me? Being a 40 yr old woman trying to conceive; I’m not sure that I want to bear a daughter. Seriously, technically I’m a survivor of just about every nasty stat that you can throw at a Black female & I’m used to it, but I don’t relish it. Being a survivor just means…

My mother died shortly after she received her lung cancer diagnosis. She’d made the same complaints to her doctors for a number of years and was told she had allergies. Finally, they did an x-ray & found cancer. She was gone 3 months later.

I feel like we are having different conversations at this point. #MeToo is supposed to be about sexual abuse & harasssment, right? So while most of the victims are female, it isn’t actually 99% of what is happening out there, but it is currently being framed that way. Rather than this being a conversation about what…

1. How is what happening? What are you asking?

We move in different spheres & read different blogs. Do you also read all the comments? The vitriol is out there and it isn’t particularly hidden.

I’m a kinky, bisexual ,& hetromantic female. My primary identification is kinky. I don’t do vanilla & I don’t do gender. The current parameter of my committed relationship is monogamy.

I’m talking about the tone of what is happening at this point. Woman = victim. Man = perpetrator. All I’m seeing is increasing anger on one side, and frustration heading towards apathy on the other, with no way forward.

Yeah, sometimes you need something petty AF to smirk at... whenever that happens, The Root is there for you!

Women and men.

Not really.