So, the time for him while he was at college was “difficult” while she was literally the one who carried all the weight.

Huh. So, let’s see here...

It sounds like his soon to be ex has a well paying job. That can help her transition over. Often losing one deadweight partner can improve a person’s financials immensely. She will have to trade off half-assed and begrudging childcare for the other bills he generates. Doesn’t sound from his opening paragraph like…

At the moment I’m alone with the kids…I really don’t want to be with the kids; love them as I may I can’t help but place some of the catalyst of blame on them.

If anything, society heaps gobs of praise on stay-at-home-dads. They get all the kudos for doing something “so amazing” when women have been doing that shit since we all stood upright.

Iwant to hear her side SO BAD

Right. She worked her ass off for those letters. He can’t be arsed to change a lightbulb.

Was married to someone very similar and agree with everything you stated. It would be a huge relief to his wife if he left the marriage. I know it was when my ex suddenly left 2 months after begging for another chance when I said I wanted a divorce. Yes, breaking up a marriage sucks and hurts, but mostly I was SO SO…

“... an RN nurse with two master degrees and a lot of letters I can’t remember after her RN ...”

I’m not going to lie:

Because, to be quite honest, his wife is the one pulling the weight in the relationship?

Yeah definitely some red flags when he complains about his kids getting in the way of his life and happiness and what he thinks he deserves. Hopefully he’ll just abandon his family and they can move on without him instead.

Yeah, sounds more like OOT is auditioning for the role of ‘once a month on a weekend day dad’, which seems more his speed.

You missed the point, that the letter writer was depicting his wife as an unsupportive nag, which obviously she is not as she’s literally been supporting him for years, and but he can’t fix the marriage if he doesn’t actually love and respect the woman he is married to, which it doesn’t seem like he does.

That guy in the first letter is emblematic of 80% of Gamergaters

Men think so little of women that when a woman is giving a living wage it literally makes their dicks soft. Your body is proving that your entire self worth is predicated on women being inferior. That’s fucking hilarious and pathetic.

As someone who was underemployed while married and depressed about it and just not doing anything to fix the issue or make up for it in other ways I have to say your advice to Letter #1 seems really off base.

From the tone of the letter its clear that the author sees himself as a victim of circumstance who just needs…

So the guy in the first letter is probably about to murder his whole family right?

Boy that first LW is a real prize. Usually I can empathize at least a little with anyone but in this case I got nothing.

That first one is very sad. I’m less concerned with the marriage being saved than I am with that dude figuring his friggin’ life out. Individual counseling seems the absolute best, most important thing. He needs to work on himself before dragging his wife into therapy to work with him—because based on the history laid…