People have said shit like that to my roommate, who is Chinese-American. She’s from fucking Ohio.

Ugh. I’m generous as shit motherfucker but I am NOT quiet-voiced and I have a huge nose. Go fuck yourself. (Obviously directed at whoever said that to you, not you. Hi, fellow Jew!)

I’ve gotten “you’re Jewish? But you’re so NICE!”

A friend’s house/apt, I think? Or maybe vacationing w friends? I think it’s a normal Canadian thing.

Dead giveaway to what?

That’s good to hear!

I’m so sorry. Have you done/tried therapy? It’s been enormously helpful to me for a number of things.

I LOVE the cheek stain, although it has never really done anything for my lips. But amazing blush.

less the “surprise” wrinkle and more the “super-anxious” wrinkle.

A friend of mine gave me this advice a few years ago when I struggling to get over someone I didn’t want to cut out of my life, and it was probably the most helpful single piece of advice I’ve ever gotten.

Something is at play with these killers that majorly dulls their empathy and I think it’s fueled by the racism and sexism and other forms of bigotry our society tolerates and even fosters.

Happy to help. You can check in on her, just DON’T engage personally. I think getting out of relationships like those are really like beating an addiction.

Ugh. I’d just keep gently bringing it up with her? You don’t want to push her away or make her feel too ashamed to get help but you don’t want her to think you’re approving. But I would bet that domestic violence hotlines and support groups can offer much better advice than I can.

Yup. And it’s not super cheap, but it’s not crazy expensive and since it’s not for daily use, it’s totally affordable.

Dated an alcoholic narcissist for 6+ years and had a very brief fling with a sociopath.

Can you look up airplane seat sizes ahead of time?

I’m so sorry. Have you guys talked to her/is she totally resistant to that?

Burt’s Bees has a really rich (like, for once - twice a week) moisturizing mask that I like, “Intense Hydration with Clary Sage.”

BB cream that has SPF, that pink Revlon Great Lash mascara, and benetint blush. Anything else for me is extra.

I used to be that way to the point that I’d often spend entire days totally silent unless asked a direct question. Now I don’t shut up (though I still get super quiet when I’m anxious or depressed). But that took a lot of therapy and working out other issues, so I definitely don’t have any magic tips...