Welcome/congrats! Where are you newly here from?

This is a nice answer. I have mixed, complicated feelings about America, but this sums up a lot of the good very well. That and it’s a physically BEAUTIFUL country. I drove cross-country five years ago and it was the most amazing thing.

I spent the evening w entirely couples, but they are my parents/parents friends/brother + sister-in-law; I guess technically the one other single person was my niece. But bc w one exception none of them were in my age-range, I had a great time.

See, you should be friends with my family. You’d arrive after everyone else had left, sure, but there’d be TONS of extra food, and you could just like, pig out then help us clean up.

See, I’d find that neutral-to-annoying (depending on the day) from coworkers I never talk to otherwise, but like, my friends I see every day — coworkers or my cohort — greet each other when we see each other. It would feel weird to ignore a friend the first time seeing them that day. Like, are all things like that…

I LOVE Nellie’s!

I only don’t say “goodbye” if it’s a “figuring out where we will meet 20 minutes from now” call bc I’m gonna see them in 20 minutes. I almost always say goodbye, and I tell my family/close friends I love them.

It wayyyyyyy pre-dates pinterest though. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Icebox_ca…

How did you find her??

It makes me feel like we’d get along. My favorite t-shirt has this on it:

But if you are infusing the butter with herbs, you need to clarify it.

Jezebel’s Stassa Edwards noted that “Ghosting might be the shittiest breakup method, but generally a person worthy of ghosting has really done something really, truly terrible.

Uh, it’s not like people advertise themselves as being “violent douchebags” at the beginning of a relationship. And what do you suggest when it comes to not *rejecting* violent douchebags? http://whenwomenrefuse.tumblr.com

I think it’s both. Fights begin small; the turning point usually coincides w society being better educated. And honestly, when it comes to social justice fights, 6 years is pretty good. Way too slow, but pretty good.

Well, those were comments from people whose comment history heavily implies that they are not feminists at all and mostly not women. And yes that is also true — this is not a general defense of white feminism, I just think on this one particular issue, they tend to do pretty well. And I mean, don’t dig. I was mostly…

Can you point me to comments blaming the Charleston shooting on mental illness? I’m not trying to be obnoxious; I feel like a saw a *couple* but they were all roundly dismissed by a lot of other commentators. But I could totally be misremembering or just not have seen the comments you are talking about, and the…

bipolar disorder or boderline?

I don’t think that would do NEARLY as much for dealing with this country’s violence problem as gun control would though. It is estimated that the number of mass shooters with mental illnesses lines up w the number of people in the country w mental illnesses, making it essentially a non-factor.

Not a single Jezebel article on Dylann Roof used the mental illness excuse. I think the Germanwings pilot case was more complicated — it infuriated me when people conflated that with people who commit suicide and don’t, you know, take a whole bunch of people down with them, but it wasn’t like, a clear hate crime…

Where are you getting “gender dysphoria”?