Yeah, it’s “beyond death, after which your friends will get painful reminders of your birthday every year.”

Love it.

YEah. I mean it’s not like I except waiters to get it right every time, it’s more just the obvious assumptions at work. The most egregious was when I wanted some particular beer they were out of, but the first waiter I spoke told me there were a couple others I might like and he’d bring out samples. Another guy…

Heh, my response to guys staying stupid shit is to look RIGHT into their eyes with my eyebrows raised in a “really, dude? are you really saying that?” manner. Then I often say “really, dude?”

A friend who used to work for a well-known and routinely obnoxious newspaper told me an awful story about a female colleague of his; their boss approached her drunk at an office and said “do you want me to put my dick in your mouth”? He was not fired.

I also love baseball, and share this frustration with you. I’m a Nats fan, and wound up watching one of the playoff games in a bar with a bunch of dudes in their 40s. So much explaining baseball to me. I know, guys. That’s why I’m fucking here.

Talking up/validating is good; make sure that if a woman makes a point and people ignore her, you don’t just make the same point. Say something like “Well Tracy’s point that xyz is a really good one, let’s talk about it more!” Annoying that shit like that needs to be said, but, it is a helpful thing.

But I mean, I see no reason why we SHOULDN’T listen to people. Listening to what people have to say is a good quality. A lot of the times, I think men need to pick up on more stereotypically ‘feminine’ traits than the other way around.

Yeah but your ideas would never, ever be taken seriously.

Or, if you have small/soft hands bc you are a tiny human, they assume it means your personality’s gonna match. I may be 5’ flat, but I can argue most men into a tiny little ball of terror.

I love you for this. And that guy for being cool about his realization moment. My life goal is to fundamentally alter the way the teaching industry works; the job should be hard to get, hard to keep, pay extremely well, and have ‘sabbaticals’ wherein teachers spend x amount of time at teacher-training sites/in…

I am really into whiskey/scotch and while I don’t know a lot about beer, I love trying different kinds, and I guess know more than people expect? Anyhow on SEVERAL dates, I have had the waiter set down my date’s boring beer or straightforward drink in front of me and my whiskey or IPA or whatever in front of him.

When I was teaching ESL, I had an older man make a similar request, and my bosses (who are another story) warned me he seemed put off by having a female teacher. Rather than sucking up to him, I kicked his ass on the first day of class, correcting every tiny mistake, including ones that native speakers make. After…

Fact: men are more likely to get into car accidents than women.

Gross.

Oh man, there is this amazing spoken word poem about this. The woman ties together her mother’s fear of her father, her own feelings about/reactions to speaking out, and eating disorders into this whole thing about taking up too much room...it’s great.

Oh man, there is this amazing spoken word poem about this. The woman ties together her mother’s fear of her father, her own feelings about/reactions to speaking out, and eating disorders into this whole thing about taking up too much room...it’s great.

Ugh, yeah, a boss got on me for “not looking happy.” Um, maybe because you pay me a stipend of 500/m and I have to work a second job part-time while also doing unpaid overtime hours here?

Also, because those are totally things you can/should control.

Literally only her male teachers? What on earth did the guidance counselor want her to do?