1. If I were her student, I would trust her to grade me dispassionately (even if we vehemently disagree about things). I would trust her more than I would you if you were my teacher.

Alas, that sort of behavior has gotten me bad reviews ("too abrasive") and, in one case, after a few aggressive meetings, my boss literally stopped speaking to me. I don't know if it was on purpose, but he would go around the table at check-in meetings and literally just skip over me. When, as he was breaking up the…

0. You can refer to me however you see fit, my sex/gender has no bearing on this conversation

Self-Portrait with Ruler,
2015

It's a real problem in academia. I have male friends who feel like male professors will "defer" to them on topics they clearly know less about than women in the room, or will assume they understand things they don't, all while constantly questioning the women. It puts them in an incredibly awkward position, because…

My mother was one of only a handful of women in her math program at college in the late 60s; her grades went up 20% when they switched from names on exams to student numbers.

I'm a training specialist in the auto industry. This is literally my life, as probably 80% of the people I teach (30 yo female) are men.

Are you fucking kidding me?

Thanks. I am feeling very Trogdor today.

He's gonna need some Bactine for that burn! Damn.

No one gives a fuck if you think I'm being emotional for pointing out how fucking absurd it is for you to say that because you have not personally SEEN a phenomenon, it must not exist, on an article that specifically discusses men not trusting women at their word. It doesn't matter to you how many women respond to me…

Are you trolling, or are you seriously, on an article about how men don't take women at face value about what they say, asking me if I meant what I said when I said that this is a thing that regularly occurs? My insertion of "slightly different words" was a bone I threw to suggest that not all men just steal the words…

a. I have done this, depending on context
b. Nothing makes you look more crazy and reinforces the women be crazy rhetoric.
c. Worse, I've had people accuse me of not being a team player and trying to "steal credit" for ideas I JUST SAID
d. I have had people step in for me, but it only ever works if it's a dude
e. Neither…

YES!! This happened to me in grad school! I asked a question, and the douchebag professor was like, "no, that's the dumbest thing I ever heard." And not 5 minutes later, said the exact thing I had just asked a question about as a FACT. And everyone in the room turned to look at me like, "Are we all taking crazy…

You need to stand up in those meetings and say, "I JUST SAID THAT AND YOU IGNORED ME." They will think you are a crazy lady, but they'll be frightened of you, and you will have put them on notice that you (a) exist and (b) are not to be fucked with. Better, the odds are not nil that someone else will say, "Yeah, she…

My husband is always acts like we're a 50 cent cab ride away from losing everything. I grew up super poor, so when he says "we're doomed" I think ok, back to poverty I go. We can sell the Jeep, the house, we'll have to get a condo because an apartment won't let us have this many animals. I'll have to get a job (on top…

Me: This is the answer, blah, blah.

I feel like men are particularly prone to overreacting when it comes to finances. I've always felt like finances were a cold hard truth, when for my husband finances and money are a very personal thing. I'll say "We need to work on our budget" and he hears "You don't make enough money." What??

The whole men act rationally while women don't is one of the greatest cons ever foisted on humans. You see this a lot when it comes to financial decision making, that it's assumed her reasoning is specious when his is truly emotional. (Note: I'm not saying that men don't or can't make rational financial decision, or…

I've taken to looking at my husband like a madman and telling him he needs to calm down so we can discuss things rationally whenever he starts getting upset or frustrated. The look I get in response is PRICELESS.