Thank you for this—it’s really solid, thoughtful advice. 

I know this might be an unpopular answer but I think alcohol is only a good gift if you know that the person drinks, that they’re OK with their level of drinking and that they will actually drink what you’ve given them. I’ve had a few times in my life when I’ve tried to curtail my drinking. When I turned 40 I was…

There are so many things wrong with the crap in this comment.

Men are, by and large, the snowiest of delicate little snowflakes. 

Eating carbs isn’t eating like crap.  If you are going to give unsolicited advice at least make it correct advice.

That’s exactly right, and well said.