One of my mom’s chief goals in life is to not get tired. She says it all the time “Don’t wear yourself out.” “Your sister looks so TIRED.” So I never get any validation for doing things. I usually get a head shake and “You’re always so (sigh) busy. I don’t understand what you’re doing with all these things you do.”

My mom is a little like this. I actually do think she cares about us in general, but not on a micro level if that makes sense. She gets really bored when I talk to her about issues I’m having with the kids, like big stuff. She barely responds, she’s let me talk for a bit, and then be like, well, I gotta go . . .…

God, “But she’s your MOM,” has to be one of the most insensitive, ignorant, pious fucking statements I’ve ever heard too many times in my life. These people, these people that say that, just fuck them, am I right? I can’t stand people who say that to me.

My mom is mentally ill, and did a lot of damage to me because she wasn’t treated until she was almost sixty (I’m still not sure she ever got the correct treatment, but whatever). But I find that I’m angrier at the members of my family who knew the things that went on and did absolutely nothing to help me when I was…

I’m going to back up and read this but first I have to stop simultaneously crying and fist pumping. Standing in Target last night looking for a card: Nope, Nope, F**k No, In my dreams, In her dreams. Better make it one with a cash holder. (I went with the soft water color with the simple “Happy Mother’s Day”.) Not…

My friend Iris took this photo and captioned it “When you hate Mother’s Day and this is the grocery store.”

Thank you so much for this. I’m one of those “middle ground” people you wrote about in the third paragraph, and I still go around in circles with my brother and father about my mom. (“Oh, surely she wasn’t THAT bad!” Oh, no, Mom railroading me into coming out to her at age fourteen, then publicly humiliating me a few…

i’ll drink to this! not everyone is cut out to shape the lives of other people.

In my mom’s old age, she has become more and more self-centered, though she was a really good mom to me as a kid. I can be with her for an hour and she will never ask anything about me, but will prattle on and on about the lettuce in her sandwich. It makes me feel oddly invisible.

Thanks for this piece, Natasha. For me it’s my Dad who I had to blacklist. I still get really tired of people who tell me “but but but he’s your Dad”. So what. He was no father. Sometimes being a Dad merely boils down to getting someone pregnant, and I resent being made to feel like I’m in his eternal debt because he…

Thank you so much for this.

Dangit! Why can’t she be the next host??!!!

Later that night

“That’ll Do with Sandra Lee” made me giggle.

Or what I call Monday night.

Haterade and Jameson.

Let’s Irish up that haterade with Sandra Lee.

Zero Fuck Living with Sandra Lee

Clearly it should be Kwanzaa Cakes and Tablescapes with Sandra Lee.

Dippin in to the f*ckit bucket with Sandra Lee.