Reading this made me tear up. I just got off the phone with my mom and she was getting emotional saying, ‘It must be nice. You have all the opportunities in the literal world (I’m working abroad right now).’

My mom sat on the couch next to me, listening to Oprah, tearing up because she’s one of those unnamed single moms who worked her ass off to make sure I went to college and had every opportunity. Which made me tear up. So now I need to go out in that world and be the biggest badass I can be, so I can make Mom and…

Woman here struggling with that whole thing too. I can’t really like someone enough to sleep with them regularly and not want more! It’s hard to meet a guy who wants more tho. I can get casual sex all day every day, but it’s not what I want.

So this isn’t in response to any of the letters but I’ve always found it funny. A few years ago, the company I was working at hired a ‘consulting firm’ to do a process improvement analysis and they then proceeded to give us a new framework (yes I work in a stupid buzzword heavy industry).

We are in the exact same boat right now. An passage in my IG feed this morning had me bawling otw to work:

On the subject of casual sex, I’m in my early 30's and recently single. And it’s been a tough one for me! First off I was caught of guard by the amount of women willing/wanting to have a casual sex relationship, some of them aren’t even interested in this relationship being exclusive. For someone like me, who has been…

I had to fast-read the article and comments so they don’t hit me so hard. Mid forties, here. A few significant romances but mostly alone most of my life. Did years of work to create a life I love and make myself a person I want to be around, taking care of myself as good as I would a partner, and so on. Then it did…

I’m married. I have been alone for a cumulative year since I was 15, and I’ll be 30 in a month or so. I am always in a relationship.

I’ve been stuck in single-land with no hope or prospects for way too long now. I’m basically giving up and am only 30. But I see all these wonderful, successful, beautiful women that I know who are mid-40's and up in the same boat so how could I think it would be any different for me?

I wish we could talk. Flip the script lady! What if you DO end up “alone”? You might. So what then? My father posed this to me years ago, bluntly, after a painful breakup.

How it’s so much more intimate to hold someone than it is to have sex with them.

All the single ladies (all the single ladies) Go and look at your 401K. Is it going gangbusters? Hell yes. Based on good reasons? Unfortunately, probably not. Due for a correction? Probably. But is it going gangbusters right now? Hell yes.

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Ella agrees. We moved from Southern California to Northern Virginia last month, this dog is shocked and appalled that people live like this.

Good point.

With the number of comments this post generated (which I have not read), it’s pretty clear you touched a chord with a lot of people.

Buster Dog and his Exposed Butthole (tm) feels these comments on the cold and snow are valid and without exaggeration.

The only thing that alleviates the ache of solitude is showing up for yourself every day and taking a hand in all the little choices that make up your life.

I had a hard time after my last big break up. I made a very frustrated effort to try and meet people, but it started to get to the point where it felt like I was just going on dates for the sake of going on dates. I ended up just focusing on getting more friends. I’ve been dating one of my friend’s friends for almost…

Those who always tell me finding people to be in relationships with is easy are the same people who are *always in relationships.* Like compulsive, can’t be alone people who define themselves solely by who they’re dating at the moment. I don’t want to live that way.