He's not at all respectful of her boundaries and violates one of them while she can't do anything about it, as I recall.

She did the three originals and maybe half of the new one. Then she quit because she'd made her point and life is too short to waste on any more of EL James' nonsense.

Zip ties, if I remember correctly.

I recall complaining about it every time. I met a clown once and she was one of the sweetest and most interesting people I'd met in a while. It annoys the hell out of me that people can't get over this dumbass cliche and move on to something else that might conceivably be a little scary to a person with phobias of…

I'm lucky, in a sense, that I've already been through my brother's death and I know that there is another side. It's been three-and-a-half years and things are better, though I'll never forget any of it.

I think they'd have to be really devoted to making up a fake persona if they wanted to make it through OKC's gamut of questions without revealing themselves. The profiles never tell you everything about a person, but they never give you something completely fake, either. Even the fake ones reveal themselves as such.

I actually think that way about common political terms. At this point, "liberal" and "conservatism" have nearly hit semantic satiation for me, like if you say "banana" to yourself a hundred times in a row and it's just meaningless sound after a while. They have basically clear and useful definitions if you're in a…

Hmm. I've been wondering about the word "bisexual" recently. I've been calling myself that for ages, but does it exclude trans people? My attraction includes them as well and I wouldn't want to get it wrong.

I hope so. I'm pretty much certain that it should have been a woman saying it if anything, but needs must, you know? I wanted her faith represented.

I tried. She didn't have any witches around at the time, as it was just us and family in the room, so I figured I should step up.

That definitely changed you. How could it not? It's an awful experience. It may well have been a mercy that you didn't see it happen at that age.

Fictional dead people definitely look fake as hell.

That thing that you're considering saying? Say it. I did and it worked out really well for me. Being honest gets that secret off your chest and lets you be in the moment. I've also found that not wanting someone inexperienced is the furthest thing from a universal trait (the lady I to whom I said that found it to…

There are a number of definitions of racism out there that use the same word while meaning somewhat different things. I think this means that people talk at cross purposes about it.

I think that part of the problem with political/social/ethical discussions is the assumption of the rational actor. I kind of doubt that anybody is a rational actor, let alone most people. Having or not having an emotional response to privilege, and the nature of that response, isn't a matter of right and wrong or…

He really should have clarified. If he just means being actively lusty in the bedroom, then yeah, I've found that to be a turn-on for most people of any gender under the right circumstances. This is sort of a side-benefit to open conversations about consent. Once everybody's clear on the boundaries (and especially…

Does it? I thought it was a separate thing. What else does it encompass?

OKCupid worked for me eventually. It's a different sort of setup, all based around questions and personality analyses, that might be more appealing to you. You can get a half-decent sense of someone from their profile, at least.

(I don't normally do content warnings, but I'm about to talk about illness and death.)

I still think he's hilarious, but this particular strain of conspiracy theorizing has been causing trouble in my family too. This somehow makes it funnier as it gets more depressing. I just have to laugh at how fucking dumb life has become when I have a brother who was this close to getting into David Icke (the…