This is a great post. This counters something I thought AND calls me out without resorting to all the garbage other folks are heaping on me. This is how you communicate with a person whose worldview is not like your own.

I am not talking about exclusively Stranger In The Bushes rape. I am saying what you say makes me deluded. Everybody at my office, everybody in my family, every one of my friends (and every person around this website) thinks it's disgusting to mention ruining the perpetrator's life.

No, most of them haven't been trying to discuss it with me. There's been a huge mountain of accusations and a few shouts that I need to read up on rape statistics. The statistics are especially frustrating because I'm not calling the frequency of sexual assault into question. I'm not taking anybody's claim that…

And what's the agenda of all you folks completely misrepresenting what I said? Yes, there are a number of men who behave in horrid, vile, sociopathic ways. I didn't say there weren't. What I SAID was that those men are the minority, and that we live in a culture that DOES recognize that they're awful.

Pretty sure Hugo didn't have a problem with asking for permission too often. Kinda the opposite.

If that's what you got out of that post, there has been an extreme breakdown in communication.

As I told the last little asshole, hello. I see you. This will be the only response you get from me, because you don't know how to be a civilized human being. I will not dismiss you yet, because I don't believe in silencing people, but if you keep posting the same shit all over these threads and not adding anything…

Nope. I don't disregard any of the stats you just mentioned. Tons of women have horrible things done to them by men. Yes. Check. I believe that, no problem.

The purpose of a gay bar is for gay people to meet. It's expected that a good looking guy would get hit on there. That is what that place exists for.

Yeah, I do. They've systematically been stalking down the conversation tree replying to almost every comment I've made with extreme hostility. It's pretty much textbook harassment.

The two categories of people "those who can/cannot separate reality from fiction" and "those who have/have not" committed rape are completely distinct. It's fully possible to be in any of the four possible sets, and you're right (barring statistically improbable nonsense) that some man I've met at some point in my…

Nice. The EXACT reaction I talked about earlier. Of course it's not possible for people to think the way I think and I'm clearly lying.

Nah, I don't get a gold star. I'm not that good of a guy. The only reason I stopped to take the time to say those things is because it was the only way I'd have a CHANCE of being listened to instead of shut out as a troll. In fact, even with that up there, I'm still getting accused of a bunch of horrible shit.

Inadequate funding and prioritization in the police forces and justice systems in this country. Millions of unprocessed rape kits sit gathering dust.

You're right that I would likely chalk it up to isolated examples. Most men don't talk like that about women, most people don't talk like that about Jews. Most people react with disgust when somebody DOES talk like that, because our culture (as I've observed it) does not enable or support those things. So seeing…

That does come off as a bit patronizing, because it looks like you're saying I'm not going to listen if it's not a man.

Hey, you say I'm wrong, but at least you're actually decent enough to do it straight out instead of putting words in my mouth or accusing me of shit I don't do or being a needlessly smarmy and snarky ass like so many others here today.

Thank you for providing a meaningful comparison. I do believe the Holocaust happened. We have all sorts of evidence and firsthand, secondhand, thirdplushand accounts.

Just so you know, and maybe you'll even get some satisfaction out of it (because I can't fathom why else you'd be such an unsavory person if not) I am willfully ignoring you. I don't really believe in the dismiss button outside of exceptionally awful circumstances. Silencing people is not cool. Ignoring assholes…

I'm not that nice of a guy, and it's not my intent to paint myself as one, so please don't do that. I only mention that I do a few non-shitty things because I'm trying to cut ahead of the folks RIGHT HERE who 100% would accuse me of those things if I didn't make it clear ahead of time. It's happened several times…