I sort of see where LW#1 is coming from. My brother is 23 and has never been on a date. Lots of people aren't into dating and I don't have any problem with that, but he desperately wants a girlfriend. He has had many girls over the years who have wanted to date him, but he falls hard for these beautiful girls who are…

Yes he is fucking innocent, just like this girl is.

The treatment I get varies by airport. Most are respectful, but in one airport I had a TSA agent accuse me of lying about not being able to walk without my leg braces. It was humiliating, and the only time I have ever called an agency/company to complain about someone's work behavior.

Most people are just bad listeners. They refuse to take the time to listen to what you are really experiencing, and just reflect back what they have needed to hear in the past when they have been broken up with.

OMG you just like replied to me like 30 times lol. You sound mentally unhinged.

Your solution to the problem is to just give nothing. You sound like a dirtbag.

No, I actually haven't been talking about expecting anything. I have even mentioned I don't plan on having a wedding. My perspective in the post has been from a guest, and how I would be ashamed to not bring something, not at all from someone wanting something :)

Read the article. She didn't bring a card. The "card" she was referencing was the snippy letter she sent the bride.

If just showing up is all that was needed why did you have a wishing well?

I never said it had to be material gifts, what you did is a gift. The woman in the story didn't do anything like that.

It isn't about requiring, and you keep looking at it from the perspective of the person throwing the party instead of the perspective of a guest. I'm not saying it is shitty to not bring a wedding gift or something to a dinner party because it is an obligation, but because it is a nice token of appreciation for those…

Weddings and dinner parties are not different. A wedding is a giant dinner party.

You sound terrible. The fact that you used the phrase American wedding industrial complex confirms that.

Yes, I didn't come from the same background as you. I actually grew up poor, I wasn't "grad school poor".

That is your way of showing love and affection. So when you get married, you can say you don't want gifts and only want hugs, and I think that would be great. But as a guest, it isn't your damn wedding. When it is customary to show love and affection by bringing a wedding gift, you should do it.

The problem is people like you, who think you only have to do something if it is mandatory. It isn't mandatory to give someone a small bottle of wine at a dinner party, but it is the classy thing to do. It isn't mandatory to bring a gift to a graduation party, but it is the classy thing to do. It isn't mandatory to…

Yes, because doing something small and thoughtful would have meant you would have to give up grad school.

I knew it. You were just justifying your lack of giving wedding gifts. I grew up actually poor, not white middle class grad student poor, and even then I found time to make a small token gift. You are clearly too busy and important to do something like that for someone else.

But you were doing exactly that. You were saying that since you didn't want gifts at your wedding, gifts should not be customary at other weddings.

So if you at your request invite someone to a dinner party because you want them there, you wouldn't bring wine or something else as a small gift to the hosts? How is that any different than a wedding? Or maybe you wouldn't bring something, which says a lot about you.