People in this thread are acting like wedding presents aren't customary. Frankly it is mind boggling.
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But I've already said the bride was terrible and her attitude sucked. So many people here seem to think in such black and white though. Bride bad, guest good. The bride being terrible doesn't excuse the guest who clearly wasn't actually going to give any gift, and even gave the lame excuse of having a super thoughtful…
Except your whole post was about YOUR wedding, when my whole argument was about being a guest.
Am I surrounded by 5 year olds who can only understand their own perspective and are still in the egocentric stage of development? As a guest at a wedding, it doesn't matter what YOUR personal policy is for gifts. I think it is great you don't want gifts at your wedding. I don't even plan on having a wedding. But when…
Are you denying that people can be a part of someone's love language? I have to wonder if you have a parent that taught you to be so self centered and only caring about your individual wants, or if you learned that from reality tv.
Did you read what I was replying too? A lot of people are justifying not bringing presents to events because they personally don't like getting presents. But that is an incredibly narcissistic way to be.
Exactly. People are acting like I am saying I want a mountain of presents at my wedding. I don't plan on ever being married. I'm not a rude fuck though who thinks that because I don't plan on getting married so I don't expect wedding gifts others should think the same exact way was me.
cheapskate.
This isn't about being a bride, it is about being a guest. Why are so many people trained to think what they want at their wedding is what other people should want at their wedding when they attend as a guest?
But this person wanted gifts, and the woman chose to ignore that.
Very few people have answered this. So you don't think it is tacky to not bring a gift to a shower, or a graduation party etc? Or you do think it is tacky, and for some reason a wedding is the exception to this celebration rule?
I'm not surprised it turned out this way. There are a whole lot of selfish people out there desperate to justify why they are too miserly to give gifts. I bet they are the same people that complain about tipping.
I think it is stingy and self absorbed to act like your mere presence is a gift. Would you show up to a graduation party without a gift, or a baby shower, or a retirement party? If the answer is no, then you shouldn't treat a wedding any different. If the answer is yes, then you are a boor.
But she made it clear there would be no gift period.
Some of you are approaching this from the perspective of the people throwing the wedding, but I'm approaching it from the perspective of the attendee. That is great that you don't want gifts at your wedding, but I think it is narcissistic to assume the same for weddings you are attending when the cultural norm is to…
But those weren't the only two options. She could have attended and brought something small and thoughtful. That would have been the best option.
It isn't greedy. I'm not saying they have to give something expensive. They can even make something homemade. Gifts are a way of showing affection and love, and if you come without anything you are basically saying that the people getting married aren't worth your time to prepare a gift. People give gifts at…
Gift giving isn't just about giving someone something, it is a way of showing your love. Your broke friends don't have to give you a new kitchenaid mixer, but they should do something that would be thoughtful, whether something homemade or sentimental but inexpensive. To just show up without anything, even a card…
I think the bride sounds awful, and I hate when people dictate what kinds of gifts are acceptable, but to attend a wedding and not bring anything as a gift? That is also really shitty.