what is happening

I work in an all-boys’ school and I wasn’t sure how I felt about it when I first started here. But in talking with faculty and observing the boys, I’ve warmed to the idea of gender segregated learning environments. I think there are benefits and drawbacks to both, but what I’ve seen in the boys here is that, without…

When I was actively dating, I developed this weird complex about myself because I am definitely “the complicated girl,” in the sense of having thoughts and feelings and opinions and a history and passions. I am not chill. I will never be chill. And I’m ok with that now, but for a long time, I was worried that I’d get…

“We’ve done girls, guys, guys and girls, we can’t do children...I think we’ve done enough.”

I think it’s because a lot of people who have dysfunctional relationships often have attachment issues. (Says the person with deep-seated attachment issues who stayed in an abusive relationship for six years.)

I know, right? I kept saying the same thing. Like, damn. If you don’t want to waste a bullet, Michonne could have put the guy out of his misery with her katana.

Rick sent him back early, so that’s why he arrived before the others.

Oh, my sweet, summer child.

Well, all the cheeses. But if I had to pick one, right now it’s Saint Andre. It’s like brie, but even creamier and better and just ohmygodjfkldjfkljfklds. It’s the best.

Bryan LaCroix did it better.

Not only that, but if the Wolves don’t come back for the Alexandrians, they will undoubtedly go after other people. They seem to kill with no rhyme or reason and will not stop. They are really no better than the zombies - which I think the show was trying to set up by showing them hacking up bodies and the way that…

Of course. I think we agree on this one :) The thing about an apology is that it necessarily is always too late - the harm is done and can never be undone. Nothing ever really makes it “ok.” But there are good apologies and bullshit apologies and this one isn’t too bullshitty, IMO.

You’re right, it’s not useful. I think supporting victims should be our primary concern, but it really helps no one at all when we refuse to acknowledge or accept when a perpetrator admits their wrongdoing and the harm it caused and seeks to do better.

But apologies don’t ever negate the harm done. They are meant to acknowledge that harm was in fact done, i.e. the impact of one’s actions. That’s why the “sorry you were offended” non-apology is such bullshit. It puts the origin of the harm on the victim, not on the actual perpetrator.

Yes, and also Chuck Palahniuk.

it’s just pastiche without any weight behind it.

My 30 year-old boyfriend said the same thing. (He went with his mom.)

If this app had existed when my abusive ex was stalking me, you can damn well be sure he would have used it to force me into engaging with him. As it was, he tried to start a blog to humiliate me into talking to him. Hello, peeple; good-bye boundaries and personal safety!

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