+1!

Ginger has been forced to stay in the game for the entirety of our marriage, as it happens. ;-)

Exactly.

...And what roles does homemaker entail? Teacher (to children), nurse (to family), and secretary (to husband)! Is it any wonder the three occupations available to unmarried women prepared them for being a domestic slave?

Just call yourself “an early retiree” instead of a “homemaker”, as men do. Then you’re emphasising your financial acumen and your successful career history, the two things that allowed you to make the choice to stay home and do it independently of a man.

This SaHM hates the choice language and finds it disingenuous. My experience is that this is a choice only insofar as high childcare costs, poor schooling opportunities, a lack of career opportunities in my field, and far better career opportunities for my husband constitute choice. We could be married till death we…

Thank you for the clarification of how you engage with other feminists who are working women. I would guess that the judgey women you’ve encountered have internalised sexism against “women’s work.” Have you tried responding to questions with “I don’t work” or “I bake/[do whatever other pursuit]” instead of “I’m a…

Thank you, this! I’m a SaHM and a feminist, but I’m under no illusions that my “choice” (as it were, in reality it’s more complex than choosing this way of life) help further feminism. Curiously I’ve never felt judged by other feminists for my so-called “choices,” so I have to wonder how the original poster engages…

Honestly as a SaHM I hear more condescending, anti-feminist sentiments coming from fellow SaHMs, not from working mothers.

Tying into Lana Banana’s excellent point about domestic work not being compensated and thus not being recognised as real work, I think we can see judgement from other women (which again I’ve not experienced myself, but I recognise you’ve experienced) as a form of internalised sexism. Perhaps those women look down on…

This entry on Geek Feminism Wiki is written for geeky feminists but it also applies to domestically-inclined feminists:

“The term “choice feminism” is sometimes used as shorthand for the attitude that women should be able to make any choice they want, and that doing so is automatically feminist. For example, “I’m a…

I’m a woman (despite the screenname), a wife, and a stay-at-home mother and I love all things domestic. BUUUUT I understand the humour of mocking all things domestic to be about mocking the demands placed on women rather than on domestic-inclined women. I’ve never felt judged by my fellow feminists for choosing (or…

Love AAA, but make sure your auto insurance doesn’t already cover emergency road services in your regular plan (Geico’s does, but I’m not sure about others).

Look at this fucking thing.

OMG...what if he IS Steven King cosplaying as a hipster? It would explain so much.

Ha! I thought (and posted) the same thing.

Separating the art from the artist doesn’t work for me when the artist’s ego clearly comes pounding through on every page, as it does with Franzen. Perhaps the responsibility of separation shouldn’t lie solely with the reader/consumer; perhaps the artists should work harder to keep their egos in check.

CACAO

So... he’s describing a rape scene here? This is a rape scene?

So because we can’t have hard data on what precise percentage of parents honour requests to help prevent germs or allergens in the classroom, we shouldn’t bother making requests?

‘K...

Never change, O Canada.

I think that you are seeing this as an all-or-nothing, black-and-white proposition, rather than a perfectly ordinary preventive measure. Of course no parent of an immunosuppressed child can be sure that their child is 100% safe from germs at school, nor can any parent of a severely allergic child be sure that their…