“Spending time with my father, my mother has told me, made her realize that she enjoyed his company more than that of her husband.”

For your own sake and your wife’s, I strongly urge you to go visit this woman now that you’re an adult. I would be very much surprised if the illusion you built up about her in your adolescent and young adult mind could survive mature scrutiny.

It took 3 years before you had sex and there was a lot of grooming on her part to make you see yourself as an adult man that she could have a romantic and sexual relationship with.

I wonder if they aren’t also all afraid of growing older, too. And perhaps there’s an element of control?

Great article - well written, thought provoking, and a side of the discussion you don’t usually hear (ie the adult children of these relationships).

Why did they leave the scene where a guy who was screaming at them stabbed three people who tried to protect them?

I’m a tall, white man who this deplorable asshole wouldn’t have targeted and I would have bailed. I would have stood back and called 911 then got off at the next station.

I honestly really worry about this. I want to hope I would intervene, but I have a 4 month old who is almost always strapped to my chest when we’re out on public transportation. I want to say that this makes no difference and won’t go through my mind if I see something, but...it will. And more than likely I will opt…

After being viciously verbally assaulted by a white supremacist and watching 3 people be stabbed - one to death - right in front of me, I would GTFO too.

Probably because they were terrified they might be next. I’m 99% sure I would have done the same.

Stories about people standing up for themselves/others and being punished for it depress me more than anything else.

They should have asked him for his SAG card in return.

They should have asked him for his SAG card in return.

The hell? What if they weren’t? I’m Canadian and have vacationed in Cali several times, and have *gasp* eaten in restaurants. As a non-local citizen.

It makes no sense whatsoever. I’m blonde and green-eyed and have an accent and I have a feeling I wouldn’t have been refused service, even if I’m not a US citizen.

Just about to post that. What if you’re here on bussiness ?

“I need to make sure you’re from here,” the waiter told the women who, not knowing what else to do, handed over their IDs.

Holding in the raucous laughter at my desk Hurt. So. Good.

I have Guy Hands as a sleeper myself. It doesnt stand out like some of the others, but its just so good.

I’d like to take this moment to lobby for Dougal Spork. I have no idea why but I can’t stop laughing when I read that name. I think it’s the combination of traditional Irish with bullshit American. Like Ardal Staycation or Dermot Marshmallow Fluff.