I say too bad if this dude doesn’t get the response he wants. If he is going to continue to sleep around outside his marriage his wife deserves to know and make decisions based on what’s best for her. Not knowing and potentially being exposed to disease, possible whoopsie babies and all the rest that comes with this…

Trust me, it is in the long run. Imagine staying with someone who is regularly trolling for side pieces? Disease, emotional distress, feeling like you wasted years of your life when you finally figure it out? Get divorced. It’s not easy by any stretch but it’s a hell of a lot better than staying with someone who has…

Totally agree. When I discovered my ex had been cheating it wasn’t really so much the sex but the thought that he’s been lying to me for years. I thought our life was great, he was off banging side pieces. Plus, the exposure to disease is horrifying. And usually they fish in a local pond so that bit sucks as well. Be…

It’s always easier to be in the first stages of a relationship - you fuck like bunnies, the stories aren’t stale yet, you’re excited about learning about the person. A long term relationship is a whole ‘nother ball of wax, one that isn’t ‘exciting’ like when you first meet but pretty awesome in its own way, if you’re…

Yep, that’s what I was thinking. He likes the side action but he also likes her at home waiting for him, with the kids taken care of, etc. I’ll wager he has not, for one second, considered asking her for an open relationship because he really does not want her to get some fresh penis.

Maybe if he wasn’t fucking side pieces he’d be connecting more with his wife. Hard to connect when you’re living a lie.

Choosing to be in a non-monogamous relationship is one thing. His wife isn’t choosing that and is seemingly unaware that she is in that situation. That’s where he’s an asshole. Also: disease.

Yeah, the health thing always pisses me off. When I divorced I had to get all the tests for STDs because my ex had been screwing around with multiple partners. That was fun. And if he had ever gotten one of them knocked up I honestly think I would have killed him. It’s not just sex, it’s endangering someone else’s…

I live in Europe. Trust me when I say that contrary to popular belief people here get just at upset about cheating as they do in the States. And you know what? I was with my ex for 20 years and while opportunities arose I never considered cheating, even when we were in a bad patch. Why? Because I don’t want to be that…

Yeah, all that effort put into the wife might mean he’d have a great marriage and some awesome fuck times with his wife. I’m thinking he’s not into the giving thing but instead gets off on the excitement of the new. The idea of exploring with his wife to heat things up seems to not have occurred to him. Or even…

But if his wife was out getting side action as well that would take all the fun out of it for him. He likes being in control.

Yep. That old communication thing seems to be troubling for so many people. Because, you know, it would mean they might lose their cake. It’s much more fun to have the spouse at home, oblivious and carrying on while you get your side action. I swear to you it’s not the sex, it’s the thrill of getting one over on the…

If that’s the case then a frank discussion is in order. My guess, though, is that he throws her a bone every so often and saves his efforts for his side pieces. Because the excitement of doing something wrong is much more fun to guys like this. I feel for his wife and kids because when their world implodes it’s going…

Sounds like my cheating ex. I swear I saw a thought bubble over his head when I found out about his cheating that went exactly like that.

Yeah, that’s the stuff that drives me insane with cheater justifications. While they’re out trolling for side action it never occurs to them that their spouse should have the same option. But then again, I don’t think they want their spouse to have the same option. I think they get off on the wife at home with the…

Agreed. You don’t ‘whoops!’ fall naked onto another person. This shit takes planning and time, particularly if he’s married with kids, because that means he’s probably not out yukking it up at parties where he might have a hookup. This dude is probably trolling the wife’s social circle and the office pool. He’s gross.

Yep. And the wife is most likely clueless - and then one day she’ll figure it out and boom. Her world will be turned upside down and most likely she won't see her kids wake up every day ever again. Fucking loser, this guy.

Nice guy, making unilateral decisions about his marriage without consulting his wife. If he wants side action talk to his wife and see if she’s onboard with it. Otherwise zip it up or get a divorce. It is so completely unfair to do this to another person because when they find out their world will most likely blow up…

Watch the UK version first. I saw it years ago and adored it so much I immediately got it on DVD so I could watch it again and again. I like the US version but I think the UK version is superior.

I was thinking that as well. I took it as ‘tenacious reporter of the female variety wanted. Not interested in fluffy talking head’.