Being able to ask for help is such a hard thing to do - I talk as freely as I can about these sorts of things in the hopes that it helps someone else. Eventually, maybe the world will be a little bit better all around.

The ramifications are staggering - even still I’m finding things about myself that I can now recognize as “Ah, that’s because of XYZ from my abusive past”. And it’s less of an issue these days because I can better cope with it - but it’s just so pervasive.

So well written. This reminded me a lot of my childhood and life - the knowing that I wasn’t really a man because men can’t be raped. The shame and depression. For me it was years long sexual abuse from my step father and there are multiple times in my life where the fallout from those years nearly destroyed my life…

I wish Far Cry 5 had a massive increase to fire spread. It just dies out too fast and never really threatens me.

Fiscally conservative but socially liberal is what I used to call myself until I realized that in order to have socially liberal policies you had to be able to pay for them and unchecked capitalism and greed doesn’t do that. And honestly, the way the parties have been going ‘fiscally conservative but socially liberal’…

Universal Basic Income was trialed, showed promising results (no negative impact on work ethic, massive gains in health, etc), and then conservatives got elected to provincial government, stopped the program and buried the research. Tale as old as time really.

I use paypal for my small business invoices. It’s a known entity in the business world and I don’t have an iphone.

It is an excellent example - because no one is aborting babies at 6 months because they suddenly want to, but it’s used as a boogey man to scare people. And when your partner is voting for a party that is supporting completely banning abortion, regardless of their personal beliefs, then that is absolutely right to be…

There is a difference between differences of opinion (Such as pineapple on pizza) and differences in fundamental questions like “Are queer and trans people humans worthy of rights and protection?” and “Should women have control over their own bodies or be forced to incubate a fetus?”. The difference between something…

Or, and I know this is an extreme position, people can play games with the inputs they want. Controllers let me lean back in my chair (or on my couch) and play comfortably even if they are not quite as precise as my mouse and keyboard. Though, for driving/flying analog thumbsticks are going to be more precise then the…

I had this -exact- same problem and I think I even used the same post to solve it. Well, partially solve it. I never got the PS4 controller linked to the steam linkI was playing on to work but I did get the xbox controller connect to the PC to work.

Oh man, I used to code MUDs 15 years ago too! Which one(s) were you on? I used to work with a couple different Iron Realms MUDs.

I wish they were mandatory here - but my fear is that they are expensive and making them mandatory will harm people who don’t make a ton of money. Make them mandatory and give a $75/tire rebate off the cost of them and driving on snow and ice will be a lot safer.

So so true. I vote we privatize it so we can pay triple the price for a quarter of the benefits!

Well, in Manitoba auto insurance is run through Manitoba Public Insurance, which is a provincial government organization. But hey, it’s cheap and it means I get to renew my license at any of the roughly 500 various insurance resellers in the city in less then 10 minutes instead of having to go to some sort of…

Toxic Masculinity so fragile dudes can’t handle girls playing the same game as them.

You’ll note that I used the word “Most” as in “not all”. If this doesn’t apply to you - then great, it doesn’t apply to you. But it puts you in the minority in the US.

I get where the triggered jokes are coming from - since right wing assholes love to use it as a punchline - but continuing to use “triggered” as a joke doesn’t do anyone who actually has triggers they have to manage any favors.

I think you get better results by learning to understand your impulses, where they come from, and how to handle them better then by just saying “Don’t play games if they piss you off”. In fact, dealing with anger issues in lower stakes environments (such as playing games) can help with anger issues in higher stakes…