You see now, you’re shrieking. And by ‘shrieking,’ I mean, being reasonable.

Alimony is meant to help support a spouse who was relying on their partner’s income, for whatever reason. If she’s been out of the workforce for 20+ years, it’s gonna be hard for her to “just get a job.” Employers tend to like to see that you have experience in.... Well, anything.

I know a woman paying her ex-husband alimony. It has traditionally been paid to the woman because of how our society is set up. But it is not in any way just for women. She’s the one with the dough? He stays home with the kids for several years, then only works part-time so that he can be available to travel with his…

He calls her a gold digger, but if he asked her to give up her career to be a stay at home mom, then it’s not unreasonable that she asks for some support since she’s starting over from scratch.

How exactly am I supposed to read “alimony is outdated”? And he’s demanding all kinds of ridiculous crap- exclusive use of their 7 cars, for her to pay all of his attorney’s fees- why’s she the one in the wrong?

You’re doing this reasoning in an incorrect chronological order:

Well, if she hasn’t held a job for those 24 years, then that’s pretty much exactly why.

I’m pretty sure that spousal support is currently limited in scope (as in, not indefinite) and is paid in cases when the spouse stayed at home to take care of the children. After being out of the workplace for so long, you’re not going to get a job where you can easily support yourself and your kids, especially five…

She deserves compensation for all of those years that she was out of the job market and that will affect her ability to get a decent job. All those years she was married to his ass and had 5 children with him. Look at it this way: that was her job, and now he has to give her severance and her pension.

Isn’t alimony based on the idea that lots of couples agree that the wife will stay home and raise the kids, so she’s at a major disadvantage trying to support herself in the event of a divorce, while the husband has been developing a career the entire time? I’m not saying she should get enough alimony to completely…

Uhhhh, because she spent years not working to take care of their kids. Alimony isn’t outdated when a large percentage of women still take time off of work to raise kids/maintain a household.

They’re working on getting rid of lifetime alimony. I bet a week of being married to that guy felt like a lifetime.

While I appreciate these things are important for you this comes off to me personally as going overboard. If you’re going to check, checking for violent felonies, fraud, etc. should be more what you’re looking for, not traffic tickets.

As far as being divorced, I guess I’d only check that if I suspected ill intent.…

Separate from online dating, it’s a good idea to create your own real profile on those social media networks with an obvious photo and something general in the bio that people who know you will recognize as you. This can help prevent random people (or worse, real-life enemies) from creating profiles and successfully…

It may not be a disqualifier, but it’s at least a reason to exercise some caution. If you combine this with a refusal to meet in person or on camera, then run for the hills. I would imagine someone who’s not big into online social networking would be all gung-ho about meeting in person anyways so that point should be…

None are automatic disqualifiers, but when seen together they are definitely something to pay attention to, especially the photo-related ones. Even if the only account they have is on the online dating site itself (many of which disallow photos with other people), virtually every online dating guide recommends photos…

Start by scanning for constant spelling and grammar mistakes.

I hate this term since the ‘documentary’ was so evidently faked and the TV series is CLEARLY faked. We shouldn’t give them such power when they’re full fo shit.

The only problem with this advice is it’s not that most people who are catfished don’t see the red flags, it’s that they ignore them. Usually because they want to “win the lottery”. They don’t want to be told that this is too good to be true. They convince themselves that there are valid reasons this person is acting…

Oh, mostly to get money out of people. You know, build up the “relationship” and then start asking for cash to pay for X bad thing that happened to them.