You motherfuckers scare ME Within 30 seconds of hearing her story you dismissed her as a liar.

Oh good, it’s a poster I’m unaware of and whose opinions don’t concern me. I was worried it might be someone whose opinion I gave a fuck about.

And yet you decided to publicly announce your ignorance. Way to go, moron.

Of course you won’t, you just referred to her as a “crazy lady”. How often do we use that label to dismiss men? Your whole post is filled with gaslighting language, but sure bud.

Maybe because they wanted to keep their jobs?

Yeah, kinda like how women are always guilty until proven innocent of lying about being raped or harassed or treated like shit on a daily fucking basis, huh?

So many mad dudes in their feelings because an abuser of women got called out.

He somehow took this post about an abusive relationship and turned it into a screed on confederate monuments, I think? It’s creative, I’ll give him that.

Hardwick then went on to accuse Dykstra of infidelity

Honestly what are you even trying to get at here?

“As an orphan who only dates men and has no interest in ever adopting, I have no empathy for the woman.” That’s the inference when they trot out females as qualifiers.

fuck you

Exactly. Those qualifiers make a man sound even more idiotic. What would be better is “As a human being, I don’t condone the abuse of women.” Hardwick doesn’t get it.

Your uncomfortable because if its true...its terrible...and the law … and rather society has turned its head so much that people are afraid or believe they can’t do anything about it. By making it more public...its well a wake up call that what goes on in privacy...shouldn’t be private..not when ..its pretty frigging…

Those qualifiers always make me uneasy. Is the suggestion that, if a man had somehow grown up without any contact with a woman, he would be A-OK with abuse?

If you only abhor something because it makes you think uncomfortable thoughts about the women in your life, I’m not sure you really abhor it at all.

Another clueless dude using the “As a husband, a son, and future father...” BS statement. Commence eye roll.

I don’t read anything about a mutually toxic relationship in his statement. Even if he did claim that to be the case I fail to see how it can be “mutual” when the power dynamics are so clearly unbalanced (he’s 20 years older, to start).

Careful, they’ll delete your post if you don’t say he’s a rapist. That’s how these sites work now.

I’ve heard that he talked about the toxicity in their relationship after it ended and that this may be a rare case of a mutually toxic/abusive relationship. I’m curious to see how we deal with something like that, if it, in fact, ends up being true.