This comment should be at the top. Jenny Trout is performing an invaluable service for those of us who’re curious about James’ latest trainwreck but have no intention of buying said trainwreck.

Jenny Trout is currently sporking this (as she did with 50 Shades). It has been pointed out that the story is a ripoff of Poldark.

Gideon Rose, one of the guests, had a suggestion: Instead of demanding women enforce boundaries each and every time, “Why can’t men just say, ‘I’m not going to be the creepy guy anymore.’” (comment starts around 43 minutes into the show)

Like, what do the police actually DO these days?

Well, he did give life to three monsters.

This is a critical point. My husband’s father is a Trump voter. He cannot ever admit fault about anything. And when challenged he immediately doubles down on his position. This is, of course, a major character flaw and comes from the fact that he comes from an emotionally abusive family and has zero sense of…

Not directly related but I think Jon Ronson’s podcast The Butterfly Effect would be recommended listening to people interested in Stoya’s ideas about the public’s attitudes toward porn and porn performers. He says a lot about the conflict between how many of us watch porn (everybody) and how many people simultaneously…

It’s a perfect storm of awful: is built upon contrived gimmickery, melodramatic but takes itself super seriously, falsely thinks it is uplifting, is poorly written, and features an actor that looks 30 but plays a high schooler. And I hate every single character and actively root against them all

Clay was the fucking WORST this season

It’s really not that difficult. Most people take a bag of some sort to work, and I throw in camping silverware and a glass straw into my bag or purse. It’s not nearly as much of an inconvenience as you’d think, I forget my work ID more often.

Thanks very much!

Nearly all the women I know, none of whom are porn actresses, have experienced at least one form of sexualized violence. It is so rampant that, of course, many porn actresses are going to have experienced it.

My experience to OBs were a little different.

Actually, shooting a lock does not ruin its effectiveness or unlock it.

Women are getting PhDs at rates roughly equal to men, which is helping close the gender gap in academia, but it’s still a goddamn steep hill to climb for women to get the same respect their male counterparts are afforded.

Slyly done. Imply that a female scientist would be less of a bonafide expert than a male scientist. How clever. Making the subtextual assertion that only men can report facts.

It’s clearly more memorable because I didn’t even get Lila’s name right in my comments. It’s about a divorcee with children who loses her grip on sanity. I appreciated that she wasn’t afraid to write a woman character who does crazy shit. I was like “how crazy can this book get?” And Ferrante was like

That’s what I love! The faithful depiction of the mixed feelings in immediate experience and the growth over time. She captured the introspection of learning from life.

I recently read the first one; it didn’t blow me away, but I really liked the nuanced depiction of female friendships. I’ll definitely pick up the next one too.

I finally got around to reading the Neapolitan novels over the winter holidays. I love her serious, nuanced prose; it’s like having coffee with a mature, crazy-intellectual woman providing a retrospective of her own place within her relationships and world over time. She’s the conversational partner I want in my own…