Yes. Even animals I don’t know, know my secrets because I know they won’t tell. I get weird looks because I’m the only person in the room talking to the dog or the cat but I truly don’t care.

Yes, actually having a name for it and a diagnosis was scary. I was able to ignore it and was in a state of denial for so many years. I started seeing my therapist for other reasons and as trust has built and I’ve opened up...my past sort of re-emerged. What’s sort of freaking me out is I can’t feel like I can trust…

Animals are the best right? Mine protect me and know all my secrets.

So, I can’t figure out how to post to you privately. First, just know that “Complex PTSD” isn’t as scary as it sounds, although it scared the shit out of me when my current therapist called it that. It just means that prolonged abuse (usuallyin childhood) twists around itself. So, when I feel like “Wow, I feel really…

Yay for Fintan! And yay for adopting adult pets!

Okay I hope some folks notice this post because I have a question that I really need answered by the hive mind. If you went to someone’s house and used their bathroom and the hand soap at the sink was bar soap would you be grossed out? I feel like people think bar soap is gross and nobody ever has it at their sink.…

Got a new cat! Not the one from last week, some how that person has figured out a way to keep the kitten. We went out and adopted an adult who is a major love bug! You can pick him up anytime and he loves to be pet. He does have majorly stinky farts but we hope with better food that will go away. Doing territory…

That was what really struck me too - 6-8 hours of sleep at 8 weeks is freaking amazing. My little 6 month old just now is starting to do stretches that are that long and it feels like heaven. Seriously, who would complain about a two month old baby sleeping 8 hour stretches!? At two months my son was still waking…

Here’s the reason we will never get rid of these endless, pointless parenting feuds : some (very insecure) parents can’t feel good about their choices unless they’re condemning someone else’s. Probably because the society at large seems set up to make parents feel bad about themselves, and they become defensive. The…

Mine were both bottle fed exclusively, and at 6 wks they were in their own rooms, sleeping through the night. I don’t give two fucks what people think of me. Worked for us. They’re 14 and 11 now and healthy, happy adolescents (insofar as adolescents can be happy). As your kids get older, the mommy wars bs matters…

I agree with you. And yet... when your child hasn’t slept for more than a couple of hours for WEEKS at a time, and you’re so exhausted you can’t see properly or walk in a straight line, yeah, there can be times where even though you love that little baby more then anything you just Can Not Deal. We did sleep training…

Yeah, really seems to depend on the kid. I think my Mom would have benefited from sleep training; she recalls nights where I would not sleep unless held upright for 72 hours straight and my dad wasn't willing to help, so she sat up for 72 hours until depression started to set in. It isn't healthy for a Mom to push it…

Fidelity.

My view, having had one awful sleeper and one medium bad sleeper: you do what you like but you might think you’ve done sleep training and find out you just had a chilled out baby. I know lots of smug well-slept parents who told me I was just doing it wrong and came back, hollow-eyed, to apologise when baby 2 wouldn’t…

I kind of want to sleep train at 8 weeks just to spite the sanctimommies who would hate me for it. I might go exclusively bottle fed, too.

Sincerely,

It seems to me that the most important question to ask you is which Regina song? :-) Respectfully, not-a-parent.

I just did what was easiest with my kids. My first one slept like crazy. You had to bounce her just right to a particular Regina Spektor song (no substitutes) for a couple minutes, but once she was out, that was it for the night. In her own bed and starting at four months - her own room! Gasp! My second one was…

This guy's been trolling all over Jez lately. As much as I admire your gifs - don't feed the trolls!

Wow, you showed your true colors immediately, didn't you? I suppose you know more about addiction than the medical profession? As a recovering addict, I guarantee you I cannot "stop having" this disease. There are things I can do to control it but it is always there. Now, you sad, bitter man, go away. There's an adult…

People who call drug addicts terrible people because of their addiction, are terrible people.