Agree it’s awful but I also kind of question the necessity of diverting the flight? Was he being violent? Couldn’t they just seat him somewhere else and then have him arrested when they landed in Anchorage? Is there some legal thing where if a crime is committed mid-air the pilot has to divert the plane to the nearest…

stress-induced shingles

It is awful having a loved one die this way. It’s been three years this month since my cousin died in a senseless, stupid car accident. I feel so much for his family and friends.

I prefer this photo. No “harmless boy” court costume.

Right, I get that but again, barriers to access. I know families that would punish a child for being in possession of a condom (mine. My family) so what do you tell those women? Those girls? Condoms aren’t cheap either. I think a lot of us take for granted the ease with which we can attain condoms and require that our…

But it does work! Anecdotally— I’ve been pregnant 7 times (3 beautiful living children, 4 pregnancy losses), and it was very easy for me to get pregnant each time. And I never, ever got pregnant accidentally using the pull out method.

the woman literally emailed me right after the story went up to say “i’m glad you told that commenter to fuck off”

My mom got very drunk one night while we were playing Cards Against Humanity, and she got the pull-out method card. She ended up winning that round, and she gestured to my twin brother and I as she announced to my younger cousins that we are proof that the pull-out method does not work. Which was not news to us. But…

While what her jackass boss did is not a HIPPA violation, in some states (like mine CA) it is a major legal violation and there are massive reprocussions, up to and including termination. Now I am only familiar with CA law which are some of the strictest in the country, I’m not sure what NY labor laws and privacy laws…

Yup, thank you. He may well have violated some kind of internal policy at their workplace (or maybe not), but that is not a HIPAA violation. It is deeply shitty.

Right? All I could think after this is “I want to buy this lady a drink and a vacation to somewhere warm with blue,blue water and maybe one of those canopy princess beds and like, a 4-wheeler if she wants. ANYTHING SHE WANTS.”

My mind bends a little bit that women end up deliverng a baby they do not want because it is less logistically and financially fraught than an abortion.

“How about asking me what I meant before you judge me”

I honestly didn’t know it was technically a form of contraception until my doctor asked if I was using any form of birth control and I said no. She responded with “nothing? not even the pull-out method?” I was like “oh! I didn’t know that was a form of bc.” She said, of course it is. Without judgement.

It is not the author’s job to find the hidden meaning in your comment.

Been using it 12 years, never been pregnant.

I just want to highlight this passage for anyone who skims or just jumps to the comments. Because truer words.

My heart broke into one thousand pieces for this woman. my god. MY GOD. I CANNOT.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.