I absolutely feel you! I used to be significantly more cynical and dogmatic, but as time’s gone on I realized that if I want the freedom to be myself I need to be able to extend that to others, because they’re not living their life for me any more than I’m living my life for them. These days I try to direct my ire…

Agreed.

I guess my ultimate feeling is that the focus should be on validating Lil Nas X rather than (what feels like, or occasionally manifests as) invalidating Harry Styles. There are plenty of baby queers who look up to both of them, and the thing that strikes me as productive and right is to emphasize the strength of queer…

It sounds like the intent was a 2edgy4u variant on kids saying the darndest things, where a child does something innocuous that has a different or extra meaning for an adult, except cranked to 11 for maximum shock value.

They performed it and (crucially) recruited the children.

I’m mostly just annoyed that it still needs to be defined as “queer-presenting” rather than just “a possible way for a person to dress.” Like I said, the dude can rock a dress, and I think it’s entirely fine and good for him to do that while also being a person who identifies as male and has sex with women, and for…

I feel that Styles has kind of become the face of gender fluidity in a largely superficial way

for much of the media to portray it as exclusively queer

Queer aesthetics and “otherness” were earned, often at the cost of brutal political and physical violence.

At the end of the day, he is just a kid whose been famous since far too young, but the feelings around him being praised vs being terrified to leave your house as a more clockable Queer person presenting as gender fluid is valid.

I mean, to be (backhandedly) fair to Harry, I’ve seen a couple interviews with him and he absolutely does not strike me as the brightest bulb in the box, or at the very least he certainly ain’t eloquent, and this goes for far more mundane topics he has vastly more experience with.

It’s the same old “how can you be bisexual if you’re in an opposite sex relationship” bullshit repackaged for today’s modern cynic.

it’s also ok to critique the discourse around why it’s ok for straight passing rich white men to gender play but not for the rest of the Queer community

It’s looking better than it ever looked

The show was literally called Game of Thrones. Everyone was a shifty schemer to one degree or another, that was the premise.

you don’t get to call it assault if your wife slaps you.

I never said you didn’t answer his question. I asked you a different question.

It doesn’t seem inexplicable to me. Guy occasionally says some cringey shit but other than that he seems like a perfectly nice and affable person who more than likely runs an extremely relaxed set. Given the alternatives in Hollywood that seems like the best scenario possible for an enjoyable work experience, and…

1/100 is a rarity.

Pearl herself ain’t this nutty.