I heard the “Oh, he’s really into her pleasure” and let’s just say I never, ever found those scenes. I found a lot where he was *telling* her how much she liked it, but none where it looked like she actually did.

The same poster also berated another survivor who said she found consent play cathartic for not “seeing a therapist to reclaim your mind and your sexuality.” I don’t often read comments on Jez that genuinely shock and horrify me, but that did the trick.

Boy, I hope this post provokes a lot more commentary attacking rape survivors who enjoy BDSM as “bad” victims and gleefully appropriating Stoya’s rape to advance a position she profoundly disagrees with. Because we didn’t get enough of that on the first post.

Unfortunately, most women are raped by “nice guys.” It’s not a stranger in a dark alley for most sexual assault survivors; it’s someone we, and probably others, thought was safe/friendly/attractive/nice.

I think it’s just hard for some people to come to grips with, the idea that someone they’ve known and cared about could do something so horrible.

It depends on who you ask. Some people are very concerned about what other people wear, but are not concerned about their own actions because they feel that what they are doing is being done in a respectful manner. Some are just ignorant of history, and making their own stereotypes. Like claiming that feathers are…

Okay, I just want to know how the hell did they discover this woman’s great-grandfather’s robe? Did she take pictures of it put it online? Were they in a book somewhere?

Better a Nativity scene than a trash can.

They can’t feel shame when they so vehemently believe that Planned Parenthood murders babies for profit. And when you try to explain otherwise, they insist that the facts aren’t “their truth” and as such they will believe what they want to believe, facts be damned.

Mentally ill or no, the rhetoric used by the GOP and far right’s antichoice attempt at a Planned Parenthood smear campaign worked on this man just like it works on people who wouldn’t go so far as to actually commit murder. People are genuinely thrilled this happened. I wish the anti choice bigots spreading messages…

Whew, he was a lone wolf! We can rest assured knowing that no other like-minded white men will commit such heinous acts!

The real question is why they would reuse such obviously dated pictures? It’s like their Marketing Dept. just put up a sign that said “We don’t care about this shit any more than you do”.

What’s interesting here is the relentless emphasis on budgeting and penny-saving—a good reminder we’re on the other side of the prosperous 1950s and now a woman’s job is to make that dollar stretch, not to request a bright pink appliance every year.

It’s more like projection. They are internally racist, sexist jerks and so they assume that most people are.

People do that with a lot of places, I’ve found. I live in Vermont, another place that gets romanticized, a fact I discussed with a roommate many years ago. I remember her remarking, “I just heard a kid in the laundromat call his mother a fucking whore. Maybe it isn’t just quaint here?”

I’m not religious, but I like the idea of prayer. When I was studying Quakerism, something Friends would say is “I will hold (you/person/thing) in the light.” I really liked that. It was kind of like saying “I’m not just thinking about you, you are foremost in my thoughts and concerns.” In Quakerism, “the light” does…

I can’t stop laughing at the idea of a kid with sharpie eyebrows.

I’d say “at least this might convince other girls who are thinking of joining ISIS that it’s a truly terrible idea.” But not really. If the beheading videos and terrorist attacks on innocents made you root for ISIS, you are probably the sort of person who thinks “well, clearly that girl must have done something wrong,…

I have a new office mate. She is VERY chatty and also takes about an hour to slowly - but very very loudly - eat her way through an apple. Headphones are the only reason I haven’t run over to her desk, whipped that apple out of her fist, and then hurled it through the nearest window while shrieking SHUTUPSHUTUPSHUTUP…

all of these things please.

did I ever tell y’all that my boss built me this shoddy lean-to like cubicle in our warehouse, so my walls are all 2by4s and metal siding. There is no natural light. So my best friend got me a large painting of a scenic river and added a pink squid tenacle coming from the water and UFOs in…