Ugggggh this is my thing about Oprah. I get it. It’s inspiring to see a black woman who went through a lot and worked hard and got breaks and became successful. But one rich black lady doesn’t automatically lift all black womens’ boats. She does aspirational entertainment. But she does it by giving conmen and whatever…

Some people actually do use their own pronouns outside of the usual ones (xie, hir, etc). Some people have argued that they are harder to for people to keep up with since they are not common English words. On the other hand, they/them/their has been used for a long time when you don’t know someone’s gender or when the…

Can’t recommend it enough. It’s a fascinating story and the doc told it well.

In my city, dogs were recently banned from being inside breweries because most of the breweries also serve snacks. A lot of people were outraged that they could no longer bring a great Dane into what is essentially a restaurant with a chemistry lab in it.

I am dead.

I am sooooo excited for this! I love it when my faves do things together. I love that there are enough of my queer POC faves to do this with now.

“I get to be cool and funny without having to fix myself first!”

Seriously, these are are criticisms of different masculine cliches. But I’ve known my share of dudes who missed the irony. 

My favorite library job jam was “My Taxes Pay Your Salary!”

Yes. I would absolutely get out of the way. This is about to be one of those fights that involves a lot of wild movements and purse throwing.

Right? I have a friend who only dates white dudes over 6', but also puts 8 year old pics in her Tinder profile. And she’s done the ‘Whatever, I’m sick of writing a profile”thing. She will not change any of these things. She wonders why most of her dates are either not into her or psychos.

Definitely agreeing with the different subculture/orientation thing. You might make some assumptions about how your partners will interact with one another. It helps to let go of that a little bit and be respectful of the differences. Let them tell you what’s up, ask questions respectfully, and try to be patient with…

I mean, yeah. We met for a quick coffee first “to plan” (to see if you’re at least able to hide how psycho you are for an hour). I’m not trying to get buried in the woods!

“I’m 5'2 and I love to wear stilts.”

As a short woman, I don’t really understand demanding a dude who’s a foot taller than you. I did that once and it was just awkward for me. And a waiter insinuated she thought I was a teenager being kidnapped by an adult man.

I had good success with listing a few things I like to do, like “Message me if you want to meet up for some good Asian food or go hiking.” I actually got a few responses saying “Hey, I’m interested in hiking,” and we set an actual date. Having a few suggestions made it clear I actually wanted to meet people and do…

Yeah, I keep thinking we need a nice chill tea bar where you can play game or read or whatever. My main spot has nonalcoholic stuff and is full of families and old people during the day. But at night, it’s pretty drinky. But I like that you don’t have to drink alcohol or spend a lot of money to hang out there.

Yes! This is why I prioritize living near the few laid-back lounges/delis in my city. There are a couple places where on a day off, I can get lunch, and chill with friends and neighbors until after dinner. Cafe culture isn’t much of a thing here, but going to my local spot every day has made me a lot more connected to…

During a dinner party, my white friend asked me for my collard greens recipe and I shouted “HAVEN’T WE GIVEN YOU PEOPLE ENOUGH??” 

I mean, I agree. But I have way more choice than most of the people in my city because I make good money. I can afford to get close to what I want AND be near my friends and family. I just think it’s disappointing that people don’t get that my priorities are not theirs, and that people with less money have fewer…