I thought by the time I was ready to have children they’d have beaten this thing and we’d be brave new worlding babies in a lab. But now I’m 30.

Sweet lord almighty. That is the most terrifying thing a pregnant lady could ever see.

Thank you for (indirectly) supporting my decision to never move back ever.

It’s not 2 lives, it’s one life and a fetus. In my Jewish opinion, fetus’s aren't lives til they are born.

You do understand that what you have or don’t have a problem with is not legislatable? Like, good for you, you have feelings about things that are both none of your business and don’t impact you at all.

“But every time this issue comes up the it’s underwritten with the idea expectant mothers bear zero responsibility to the fetus they will soon call a child.”

No. Instead these subjects come up because almost every pregnant woman is immediately judged and pressured and given a plethora of “helpful advice” about everything they’re doing “wrong.” Most things carry risk and most pregnant women have healthy babies despite inherent risk. It’s impossible to not change your…

I get you girl, I really do. Women absolutely SHOULD change aspects of their lifestyles upon becoming pregnant.

My body, my choice.

There’s actually no scientific evidence that light drinking while pregnant is harmful to the fetus (all the data comes from binge drinking mothers). Approximately two thousand years of women moderately drinking while pregnant (and in plenty of modern cultures, like large swaths of Europe) show pretty well that you can…

I would say it’s cool if you think YOUR behavior should change when YOU get pregnant. I’d say it’s less cool if you think MY behavior should change when I get pregnant.

That’s not completely true though. So the dudes that get time off also expelled a baby from their body? People that adopted also somehow managed to expel a baby from their body? No. It’s an allowance for creating a new family and dealing with that. It’s a chance to spend some time on something you find to be important…

I worked with a couple of ridiculous sanctimommies in a small office and would randomly text my mom notes like, “Thank you for having an identity away from me so that I didn’t grow up feeling this pressure to be the center of your world at all times.”

My boss told me today I could go home early if I needed to because I was getting a little upset about my aunt. She said I cover for people so much that if I needed time for myself to take it. It was nice to hear that. Not everyone gets that support.

WHEW.

OP said camera lenses can be male-gazey. This is a perfect application of OP’s statement. If going into someone’s face to shoot them against their will isn’t male-gazey-rapeish, I don’t know what is.

He said “we paid for you” and also didn’t respond to her “stop” and “no.” Maybe it sounds very radical fem but camera lens can be male gazey and with the non consent here this feels kind of rapey (no, that doesn’t undermine actual rape...this is a different degree but in my understanding there is a spectrum of…

I’m a vegetarian, and I think this whole kerfuffle is cuckoo for cocopuffs. They own/run vegan restaurants. In their private life they raise cattle for their own consumption. They’re not lying about it. And they’re not secretly adding beef and chicken to their dishes at the restaurant. It seems unrealistic (and more…

So what you’re saying is, they should have known that vegans are militant, fundamentalist fanatics who were gonna come after them for not committing fully to the cult, I mean “lifestyle”?

Then the solution is to not support their business. I don’t feel bad at all for vegans (or anyone) who are so militant they can’t make room in their world view for an opposing thought without being a god damn asshole.