Hillary Clinton’s sense of humor is amazing and legendary. Of course she brings up her emails, and your positing that the world has moved on from them is simply incorrect. Trump, Fox and co still bring them up all the time. And if you think we’re all going to refrain from “but her emails...” comments for every moment…

I’m a reluctant birthmother and this issue is s major source of righteous anger in the adoptee community. The sealed records are supposed to protect the biological parents from the pain of later contact and the adopters of the fear their adopted children will want a relationship or even know their birth parents. The…

According to the UN “rights of the child” - all children are entitled to know their biological family and ethnicity. Unfortunately, this is never considered in these agreements.

i am also interested in the answer to this one

Is there a recruiting agency geared toward women out there? I’d be more inclined to use that instead of paying $2K for a LinkedIn type app. 

I loved 23&Me, because I got a sense of the family I’ll never know. I’m internationally adopted with no hope of finding a bio family, except through usage of a system like this. I’ve found some 3rd cousins, including another who was adopted from the same country a year earlier.

I feel like those anonymous adoption contracts always forget the one person who is too young to sign, but will be most affected by them. 

My partner did the whole 23andMe thing. While I am vaguely curious to see if my ethnic heritage might turn up any surprises, I have zero interest in knowing before I have to that I am inclined towards having some serious incurable illness in the future, and I definitely don’t think it’s a good idea to sign your…

I was conceived via artificial insemination. I talked to a contract lawyer about this a few yars ago because I wanted to find my dad. Though technically parents can’t sign away an unborn child’s rights, there’s no legal precedent to support that. The children of donor insemination have no legal recourse.

Of course you cannot sign away the rights of your child to seek out their biological parent, especially in the era of readily available DNA testing and ancestry companies. But this woman who contacted her donor’s mother is kind of the worst. Like wtf was she expecting? Talk about seriously overstepping boundaries. If…

We live in wild times. I have never felt like I wanted one of those companies to have my DNA. it makes me nervous. I probably read too much Sci-Fi.

My parents didn’t! I’m one of the people who got an unfortunate surprise when I took a DNA test for fun. I still live in the small city I was conceived in, so god knows how many half-siblings I have running around town

Not sure about other sites, but 23andMe makes you opt into relative matching. You can use the service and never have your anonymous sperm-donated children find you through it. Granted, you’re also limited from finding any other relatives through the service, but so it goes.

I really want to see a friendship version of this. I’ve been ghosted while dating before, but it’s normally like, after two dates I never heard back type stuff where you can just shrug it off. But my best friend from college ghosted me, and it bothers me to this day. we hugged at graduation, cried a bit, she left…

The donor dilemma and these DNA services are going to force us to reckon with some deeper philosophical issues related to who owns our DNA/where our rights to ourselves begin and end.

The fact of the matter is obvious on paper: the DNA that connects us belongs to all of us in the chain, and so it belongs in some ways…

No, you do not assume, you have to know. The only way to know whether the donor wants any contact with his biological offspring is to ask for his permission before the donation. If he does not give permission, the sperm bank can either turn him down or mark his donation, so that the recipient knows that this donation…

It is absolutely fair to assume that the mothers who used a sperm bank want to raise children independently/with their existing partner and aren’t interested in knowing the identity of the donor, but the children resulting from the sperm donation have not entered into an agreement of anonymity and may seek out their…

Because when the kid turns 18, they are able to use these services without asking mom. The agreement is with the mother, not the child, even though this decision affects them. And what about the child’s children? It’s unrealistic to expect the agreement to stand across generations.

Do parents who used donors talk to their kids about finding out about the paternity of any potential sexual partners or do we assume that because we live in a big world the odds of bumping uglies with a half-sibling or even your dad are small enough to let it ride?

From the comment section on the source article: “I don’t even know who either of these people are, but I must say, as a straight black man who loves white girls messiness...this is top shelf."