I really enjoyed the book too, but I didn’t relate to it. I have the opposite issue: too few real options. I feel like if you’re a straight woman who won’t date a sexist, it’s pretty slim pickins. No?

Correction: “I skimmed an article about them once, so I would know.” (Skimming usually means looking at the title and the first three words.)

Why is it called “guy hot”? Is it about the similarly low standards that men meet in order to be called hot? (Take a shower, wear clothing from the current decade, be an average-ish weight, have intentional-looking facial and head hair?) Please tell us more!

I’m sort of glad that my naturally dark hair is apparently filtering out guys like that.

Right—I agree with all of this. I am talking about how personally difficult it is to translate this logic into action in the moment.

It’s so, so hard to actually deliver this lecture though. Several times, when I was teaching humanities undergrads, one would consult me about grad school and I’d only realize as they were leaving my office that I should have discouraged them. Or even just not -encouraged- them.

When I was an adjunct, the weekly department meeting was actually during my class time. Then I got laid off in an afterthought and my class was given to a TT professor who didn’t want it added to her workload.

Yes! This happens to me all the time. I think some of the irritation is in the very fact that I’m bored, i.e. being asked to mull over an EXTREMELY ANTIQUATED IDEA as if it’s new.

Maybe Becky?

I suspect Regnerus would date that back to Eve and the apple, actually...

And I admire that, just like I admire couples who have regular marriageweddings but explicitly tell people NOT to give them anything. (I did that, am now divorced and probably going to remarry myself.)

You’d think they would have spaced them out more strategically, though. 3 emergent babies in the same season?

That was my thought too! I don’t like spending my birthday with what looks like wires straining against my breasts.

Troll heaven: Kneeling NFL players tell Trump that they all identify as women, so this Code doesn’t apply to them.

Yep—mandates are generally indicated by the word “shall.” “Should” is not enforceable.

Perfect! I’m 35 and ready to check out myself.

I like that idea. Getting old will also probably be a marriage-breaker, but maybe she needed to speed things up.

Well, he couldn’t rub his nose with his middle finger for 16 seconds....

Angelina Jolie ran into the same mom-with-white-couch pitfall in her recent Vogue profile. <<BUZZER SOUND>>

But he couldn’t marry a non-dumb woman who was also his own age. That would have been too much to ask.