This is literally exactly who I thought Bobby Finger was.

Now I’m imagining a British constable finger puppet with an animated series:

It’s Buckingham-bucks, right?

Fuck your friends, relationship expectations are fundamental to a good relationship. There’s a difference between being picky on things like aesthetics, background and upbringing, career ambition and income, versus not having something fundamental like relationship structure and future expectations, libido,hobbies,…

It’s a stupid arbitrary number and I think it came from the stupid “The Rules” book. It may have possibly been around before then but who knows. I broke all the “rules” with my now husband because he was supposed to be a one night stand and here we are together 12 years later. I think we were just both at the same…

girls aren’t called women until MUCH later (usually post childbearing)

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YES THIS. I’ll give kudos where it’s due, it was my husband (then not-quite boyfriend) who was the direct one and me who spent months freaking out about it cause I’d only ever dated shitheels who just didn’t have an emotionally available bones in their bodies. But once I absorbed the fact that him telling me he really…

Well and a lot of young people don’t want something serious, but they don’t know that it’s okay to say that up front. And nobody knows how to deal with confrontation gracefully anymore. It took me a long time to learn to say, screw it, I’m going to be kind but direct, and if people think I have ulterior motives that’s…

If a young woman ignores you, she’s not that interested in the first place. Don’t play games. Just be a good person, be yourself, don’t be a douchebag, and be honest if you want to go out with somebody. Ask them out directly. Tell them afterward if you had a great time and want to see them again. If they disappear,…

Ha! I’m a college professor and I try hard to refer to my students as “men” and “women,” mostly to combat the awful fact that boys generally are called men in their late teens/early twenties, and girls aren’t called women until MUCH later (usually post childbearing). In either case: don’t grow up too soon! Have fun!…

Sorry, do you mean women?

OK, now I may be more confused than you just from trying to follow that sentence.

I’m old enough to have actually sent dead tree letters to love interests, but for better or worse have to acknowledge that lots of serious, real-life stuff now goes down via text.

Creepy? To be “hitting on” him? After six dates? You have some messed-up standards for acceptable female behaviour.

“You don’t have to respond” means “do not feel compelled to respond” not “literally never speak to me again.”

-Sent from my vulva

That simple rule, if applied as a categorical imperative, would put pick up artists and women’s magazine editors alike out of jobs, though.

You’re 20. Seems like a normal response. Talk to me again when you’re 35 and single.

The first problem is that you’re a woman, the second is that you’re showing it.