One thing I think MRAs have picked up on (but not at all understood or articulated that well) is the kind of doublethink required for feminists to acknowledge that the patriarchy hurts men too but then act somewhat dismissively when men try to express feelings in the only ways that the patriarchy allows them to…

What I'm getting at is that in feminism, there's a very loose heteronormative framework of "men as abusers, women as victims" (and cissexism that equates assigned male and men, assigned female and women) and although the OP worded their objection awkwardly, the fact that the responses to this article from the…

That's a fair critique. That personally didn't bother me that much. To each their own!

Look, I see what you're trying to argue, but you're speaking from a place that is hyperbolic and broadly sweeping. I know porn actors. Some are very much like you say. But many of them? More of them? They love it. They love the hardcore stuff. They love the exhibitionism. Is it for me? Hell no.

Starred for use of "sandy cunted" - that shit is next-level

Maybe we should focus less on trying to change who we are and more on trying to play to our strengths. Like if you're stubborn, you're probably loyal and stand up for what you believe in. If you're wishy-washy, you're probably flexible and open-minded. Awesome people come in all types.

Based on the number of my friends in the 40-50 range who seemingly turned from fun-loving, humorous liberals into conservative cranks over the span of about six months, I'm gonna go ahead and call bullshit on this one.

Right — a few details, i.e. "I'd like a small beach wedding, and no fondant on the cake," is fine and probably pretty common. That's not really what they're describing here.

I think it's fine to have some general ideas of what you want for a day as important as your wedding. I daydream about far less important things, such as what I would do if I ever travelled to Eastern Europe. I don't plan out an imaginary detail-filled itinerary, though.

Having planned a full wedding when you aren't even dating is pretty fucking stupid. I would be embarrassed to have a friend who did this. They should be embarrassed to exist.

I think Angelina's right, that hat looks stupid. Get a new hat, Brad.

That Autostraddle article/response is about 70% of why I stopped commenting regularly, and have been, um, let's say "off my game" as of late.

What intheweeds said. Please, PLEASE, with all of my queer little heart, do not think that Jezebel is a good place to learn queer issues. They are, in many ways, actively worse than reputable liberal-but-not-feminist media outlets (e.g., NYT).

No. I'm sorry but no. Jezebel is no place to learn about queer issues. It never has been and if you want to learn something, may I suggest anywhere else. Mainstream feminism does not have a good history with the lesbian/trans community and certainly not the general commentariat of Jezebel. The last time Jezebel wrote…