I think your first point is more than fair, and a fair criticism of my criticism. I don't read sites that are marketed primarily to gay men. Have you seen anything like this there?

Not quite, I'm arguing against the premise that the article "fails" because it is not all things to all people. I think the article is great, and it is reflective of things that I have experienced and observed myself, and I'm glad that someone has finally said "enough".

This was also about 15 years ago, and presumably all of the parties have matured and gone on to be perfectly nice grownup people. I was a jerk back then too, so its not like I give myself a pass at shitty behavior either. But, it was an interesting artifact that I was deeply upset by then, and have done a lot of…

I question the validity of the entire premise that this particular article "should" be about anything other than what its about — pervasive and vile misogyny freely expressed without censure by gay men, in private, in public, and all over pop culture.

The article is about topic X. You are interested in reading an article about topic Y. You say that the article "fails" because it's not about topic Y. I think that criticism is invalid.

I'm sure they can, but its not really my job to stick around during that process just to prove some point. I'm not interested in enduring other people's shitty behavior on the outside chance that in 10 years they'll mature and stop going "uchhh!" when they look at me dancing with a (gay male) friend (who asked me to…

The comment section can have as much thread drift as it likes, I'm down with that. What I'm not down with is the bizarre expectation that the article "fails" because it doesn't discuss all the things the poster personally wants to talk about. Those issues were not the point of the article, and should not be used to…

I think so. If that's a subject you want to discuss, write your own article about it, although I think its something that has been discussed quite a bit more than the rank misogyny among gay men. Don't demand that this article that you read for free on the internet contain all the things that you personally want it…

No seriously. I hope you punched him in the nuts, or at least yanked his PBR tallboy out of his hand and whipped it at his head.

I've had guys walk away from me mid-sentence without a word, or just tell me to shut up).

For real. I have a friend who I met in college during his newly-out phase who referred to me as "hag" because its actually a syllable in my last name. I thought it was funny at the time, mostly because I was still figuring out my place in the world as most folks do at that time and I thought it was cool be on the…

But that's not what this article is about. Write your own article if that's what you want to read about, this man is writing about one very specific thing. Its not his job to write about all things you want to read.

What other word would you use to describe someone giving another person a drug without their knowledge?

Sample set of 1 I freely submit, but some of the most repulsively misogynistic people I've ever met are young, newly "out" gay men. I swear the next man I hear use the word "fish" to refer to women, overtly or obliquely, will get my fist in his balls.

The poster directly above you had the opposite experience, so while yours is perfectly valid, its clearly and demonstrably not universal.

Oh yeah no for sure he is totally gross, I remember those comments and actually feeling really alarmed for her and her sister, I think everyone's mind immediately went to "sexual abuse". You're right, no matter how you slice it its still disgusting.

Read the article by Simeon Doonan quoted below. Her bosom was very large, which threw off her "size" by like an order of magnitude apparently. According to the guy who had his hands on her clothes, she was a waif.

Well, I can relate to the "I don't need another friend" thing. Friends are wonderful, but just-friends are corrosive to the heart I think. I like friends, but I don't want "just friends" because there's always going to be that uneasiness. I've been on the other side too, and have been very careful to put a lot of…

I think its OK to walk away if you're too into someone to be friends with them. There's definitely times where I should have done that and didn't, and it worked out very badly for both of us in the end. There's something to say about knowing yourself enough to know when you can't be OK with "just friends" and saying…

No, I think its just that women named Kate don't take anybody's shit.