My brother-in-law does this all the time as part of normal conversation. And like, every single time, he forgets that my sister and I know more than he does about a lot of things and will call him on his bullshit. We call him “Cliff Clavin” a lot. To his face, because we’re assholes.

I’ve had this happen to me a lot, and I generally know that they’re doing it - I don’t always feel like correcting them or calling them out.

True story. I was at a fundraising event, seated next to people I didn’t know. I struck up a conversation with the gentleman next to me who ended up being a political staffer. He asked me about my field, and then interrupted me to say, “Oy! I read an article about that the other day. The article said that.....” and…

Entourage took $17 million over weekend, missing it’s projections by $3 million. Was a cheap movie which will be in black by Wednesday. Frankly the comparisons between the two movie’s is odd.

They don’t visit the comments section so much as permanently live there. There seems to be nothing we can do about it.

As a hospitality employee you know that there are some people who just come in to bitch. You can see it as soon as they walk in the door. Apparently, those people also visit the comments section...

I am gay and see crystal clear how it’s a violation of free speech: The government is compelling the bakery to produce an item that contains a political message it disagrees with. Pretty clear violation of freedom of speech principles right there.

Bullies always say that.

Ummm. I’m sorry you don’t get that I was speaking in the general. See, like all women, women of my era talked about sex. And, we had a thing called popular culture. As shocking as it may seem to you, college people in the 80s had sex, and talked about it. And wrote about it. And made movies about it. So, that’s how I…

But by not just saying no and shutting him down, she *was* accommodating him! I’ve been there, been called the prude, the bitch, uptight, etc for turning someone down. I get it. But does that mean that we should all start walking on eggshells and never say no to a man ever again?? If anything, that gives them *more*…

And yet she *did* still go out with him. If she’s told him no repeatedly, and he was so bad that she had to make up the 5 yr remission milestone because she was scared of his reaction otherwise, then why why why did she go out to dinner alone with him?? And yes, I’m a woman.

I don’t & neither do you.

You are all overcomplicating this in my mind.

I actually agree with your view that women need to work on being more direct (I’m a woman, just FYI). I work very hard within my social circle to convince my girl friends to not only be more direct in rejections, but within their relationships as well. However, I in no way can convince any of them to work on their…

He made a disgruntled remark to a third party after a date he idiotically waited 5 years for didn’t go well.

Quick answer - don’t say yes. Don’t give a bullshit excuse. If they harrass you - call the cops. He seemed to suck it up when she walked out on the date. Chances are he would have handled similar behavior earlier.

But she didn’t tell him no. She gave him a window of opportunity instead of just letting him down firmly. He decided to take her up on an offer she made, and if she regretted making that offer (she clearly did) she has no one to blame but herself. If she didn’t want him asking her out after 5 years in remission, she…

It’s always embarrassing to realize you’ve preached to the choir. I’m sorry for assuming. It’s just that up until a few years ago I couldn’t stand up to many people, and I felt horrible that I'd end up stringing someone along. So what she did was unwise, yeah. Thank you for not calling me a bitch.

Not that you’d believe me, but I an a 40 yr old Black chick. Been scared, raped & more casually assaulted a few times. I am exceedingly careful with my dealings with people & my experiences are precisely why I am clear.

I'm guessing you're a guy. I'm guessing you haven't been viscerally scared and affected by dozens of news stories where a woman said no and was beaten/slashed/raped/stalked/killed. I'm guessing you don't realize that most women have to really work at responding directly to an undesired request because doing so is, as…