Is the first Trails available on vita as well? Or if you missed it do you need to start with SC? I don't have a PSP or know anyone who does.

One thing to go with Ladyheather’s comment - navigating severe medical issues (for me, less severe for him) and caregiver/patient stress did make things hard for a bit, because it completely changed our self-images, what we’d wanted out of our marriage, and life. But it didn’t mean we weren’t still best friends and we…

Yeah. I don't want to make people more miserable than the rest of the world conspires to.

My mother is a maternity OB/GYN nurse (eventual nurse practitioner) and she taught me never assume or mention a woman’s pregnancy unless you can see the head of the baby crowning. Even then, shut up, why are you there? ;). But seriously, she said you can't tell by looking if someone is pregnant, or even if the…

As a lurker myself, this whole exchange (and both your usernames!) has made me inexplicably happy! :)

Thank you so much. It means a lot.

Thank you for this. This may never get out of the greys, but your reply made me cry - it's nice to know someone understands. I always tip heavily (50-100%) when I get my nails done. Disability doesn't mean we don't feel societal pressure and like looking pretty, too.

I tip my wheelchair pushers well, both because they have helped me and because I have spent too many years a long time ago as a tipped worker.

I wonder if they did any studies on the productivity of childless women dealing with a major, chronic illness. It's like adding another full-time job (or two, depending on flares and illness cycles) and dealing with their career and marriage. Not every woman is childless by choice.

Me too :( for both counts. It's very sad.