Yeah, that's where it gets real. It's easy to see where we are oppressed but difficult and painful to look to see where we oppress. We remember the gifts we gave, not so much those we got.

It's a dumb flawed strategy, to position women and men as different species that have to be told how to act by the grand mother (feminism) or father (patriarchy.) It uses an actual oppression as proof of its necessity but the strat relies on painting both sides with the big brush of generalizations and in turn…

But I don't get how this "experiment" showed anything different from other circumstances when people might stare. And I'm really not convinced this really shows what it's like to be an attractive woman at all.

As we changed trains at a crowded platform in downtown Boston, all eyes seemed to be on Doug and the lemon cake. He ducked his head and hurried past the stares until we reached the farthest, emptiest part of the subway platform, where we stopped. He said, "Is this what it's like to be an attractive woman?"

Those men are just clueless about all the people that look at them. Perhaps they have no fucks to give. Because if you pay attention, everyone is always watching everyone else. Women are certainly leered at far more often. But a man can expect objectifying looks when wearing something unique and/or attractive. And…

I can tell you right now that I'm a married man, and I have to cave into maintenance sex with my wife. Why? I'll explain it in 3 words:

I think the most important point here is that "maintenance sex" isn't a strictly female phenomenon. As usual, Dan Savage is not only dead on but also gender neutralizes the subject by speaking to a same sex experience (shout out to Lindy West's SavageLove past and the unbelievable Slog post she wrote on size!).

Exactly, by making it a gendered issue, when it isn't, they're not actually addressing the problem: people being jerks and taking up too much space on public transit. Because they're excusing half the population that ALSO behaves like jerks.

Oh, I'd say they do it with much more frequency. Which is why the whole taking up too much space thing isn't a gendered issue. Men spread their legs out more often and women use a second seat for their purse more often. Making this a men vs. women instead of an asshole vs non-asshole issue is just dumb and…

Yes, it's obnoxious regardless. Unless the train is relatively empty you should never be taking up more than your own seat. Though interestingly the tumblr referenced in the article seems to be mostly pictures of fairly quiet trains with dudes "manspreading" when there isn't even anyone next to them.

Is womanspreading ok though? Because I see women putting their shit down on the adjacent seat with equal frequency as men.

Oh poor you. It's the fault of the menz. You really need to look at the men you are using and using you.

So basically you decided to turn an article that was about something that has nothing to do with you into an article entirely about you? And 13+ fellow asshole Jezebel commenters decided to star you for this effort? 'kay.

He didn't rape her. You're just going to have to accept that :(

I'm not going back to looking at the Sunday Macy's circular. You hear me, I'm not!

There's gay porn that follows the exact same script...nominally straight dude gets baited into a bus or van and tricked into gay sex. Do the producers of that porn hate men?

Part of it is that people like to fantasize about things that they wouldn't actually do.

How come you never said this when they posted that nonsense study about how men are less empathetic than women and emotionally crippled or some shit? Because that was posted a week ago, and I still can't figure out how the fuck someone measures empathy reliably.

I am reminded of something that happened to me many years ago with a girl I was seeing. Her mother found out that we had been having sex and went mental at the pair of us (me mainly of course), lecturing us about the perils of pre-marital sex and that if we had sex then when we got married we would, and I quote, "have…

I am sorry Isha, and I hope this doesn't get me banned, but you have to "up" your game! Your articles are consistently of lesser quality in the "Jezmosphere" and it ain't like the bar is set that high. I'll guess you're walking a tight rope and don't even know it.