I have been the side piece for so many attached men, I don’t think I’ll ever trust a man to be monogamous. They never tell you they’re in relationships in the beginning. And when they finally fess up it’s always the same boring story. She’s a frigid bitch who doesn’t understand or fuck him and he can’t leave her…

This so much. I was trying to same something similar downthread. I feel slightly misled by the feminism I was raised in. 75% great but 25% fucked me up a little. 

Where did I say I’d take a penny from a man? I want to be a single mother without any attachment from the guy. I don’t want them involved. So if I don’t get an anonymous sperm donor, I’ll find someone who is ok getting me pregnant and not being part of my or my child’s life. Those men exist. 

Anddddd thank you for helping me solidify my decision to become a single mother. Stories like that are so common and make me slightly nauseous. 

Yes thank you. I rewrote my comment a dozen times trying to encompass everything but it would have turned into a 13 page essay. There are so many factors. The sex like a man is merely one, and something I happen to be dealing with this week.

Yes sir. Welcome to NYC. Good men are in high demand. 

Interesting. I’m obviously not as smart as you. I know what I know and that’s taken me almost 3 decades to figure out. All I’m saying is I wish we had more honest conversations with each other about the realities of relationships. We are not princesses in need of rescuing, but many of us do have an undeniable drive to…

Interesting. I didn’t know that. So the estrogen is the sex hormone and the testosterone is the what...flight hormone? 

Interesting. The best long term FWBs I’ve had were never with the most attractive men. They were usually charming and intelligent but not the hottest by a long stretch. They were adventurous in bed and usually had flexible work schedules to get together last minute. I fell hard for 2 of them and they both told me they…

Ha. I’m with ya. 

I’m a Buddhist who loves the teachings of Jesus. Dunno about the rest of the Bible. 

I picture Jesus to look like khal drogo. 

It’s not you. It’s the technology. It’s changing peoples brains. My girl friend is drop dead gorgeous and still feels the same way you do when out with guys. Nothing is ever good enough. When there are unlimited options (?!?!!) how can you choose one or even stay interested in one? We as a collective are giving…

Totally. I did this once. Moved to a small New England town. Met so many nice guys eh took me on legit dates and were looking for a wife. Small town living wasn’t for me and NYC is my home. 

Yes but for women, sex = becoming pregnant. (Talking about cave men and biology) versus men sex = impregnate. The effects of sex on men and women are VASTLY different biologically. For women it is a 9 month journey and then probably many years after that, too. For men, it’s over when it’s over. There is no biological…

Ok but biologically speaking there is a difference between testosterone and estrogen. And those differences can come out when sex is at play. I’m not saying you can’t enjoy sex for the physical, but men and women process and use and experience sex differently and it’s not something talked about in feminist…

Fucking without any feelings. Women can do this but not at the rate and with the ease so many men seem built for. I feel fooled by the feminism I was raised on, women are men aren’t different. Yes we are. In some very fundamental biological ways, we are. No better or worse, but different. And to ignore that and…

Girlllll. If I didn’t love sex so much I’d consider becoming a nun. Can you masturbate to Jesus? If so, interest is piqued again. Jesus was a good man and probably tall, Arab, and handsome. 

Tinder happened. This new wave of feminism that has taught women that fucking like a man in empowerment. Everyone seems to be confused.

This is lovely. Thanks for sharing. I’m almost 30 and considering having kids on my own. I have yet to find one person who would have been a stable father and partner so fuck it. I feel like getting knocked up alone will put some of the pressure off to find a good man. If it happens down the line, amazing, and if not,…