Attn: Normal People,

That team effort aspect of parental leave can’t be stressed enough. Both parents need that time to learn how to parent, and parent equally. I have a friend who had a baby last year, and she got a pretty good maternity leave from her employer. Her husband got two weeks and took a third week of vacation. The result is…

And QUIT ASKING FOR SOMEBODY TO COME IN ON THEIR DAY OFF PERIOD. Your husband’s boss has shitty hiring and payroll if he needs somebody to not take his MANDATED DAY OFF. Gahhh, this makes me so angry!

My husband is constantly asked to come in on his day off, when our son has a standing appointment that my husband takes him to. His boss is like, “can’t your wife do it”. No, I cannot, because I am at work and it is husband’s fucking day off.

Maybe? Until it is understood and expected that both parents want to act as parents in raising their kids, nothing will be done. Women asking for it was never enough because working women have always been treated as the exception, not the rule. Even when most households have two working parents.

And not even getting into prestige tv “lane bitches”

As someone who went through the ivf process, it’s not just the money for ivf, it’s the money for the meds, time off work, rearranging your entire life because NOTHING ELSE MATTERS when going through fertility treatment ADDED to the fact that whatever is in that freezer might be your best/only shot at parenthood. I…

Or her self-preservation instincts are focused on paying rent and buying food. All too often people who are struggling to get by, especially women, have to make this trade off.

Uncle Phil was there when no one else was:

This scene though!

Off topic but I was just thinking about James Avery and how great a father figure he was for us teens of color. To all accounts he was equally great off set. I guess I just want to say screw Bill Cosby. Uncle Phil should get more love than he does.

That was so kind of the hospital. That’s a lovely momento.

I’m sorry you had to put you rescue dog down. It’s so hard. That is so awesome that the hospital did that, though. I have my first dogs paw prints on my wall. It’s a nice thing to have.

I’m crying reading this. Glad you knew him, though.

I’m also sorry. I have two dogs that have been with me for a long time, but once I once put a dog down I had for a year (rescue) and I sobbed. The hospital was really nice and gave us a cast/ mold of her footprints. So it’s almost like a part of her is still with us. 

Oh that’s horrible. I have two dog fur babes and I can’t imagine seeing them suffer so. Especially at a time when you are the most vulnerable. My heart goes out to you. Hearing stories about dogs passing away always make me cry. It’s so visceral for a dog lover. You know they will die before you do, but somehow you…

I can never find the right words to articulate how special dogs are because they are just there for you and with you, all the time. They are present in your happiness, sadness, depression, anxiety, distractedness, anger, illness and on and on and on. They see every turn of mood, every emotion, every success and every…

<3 so hard!

Oh god you just gave me all the tears

Man, Skins was so fucking good.