55 year old men who do that are not neophytes. That pose spoke to his worldview, and you bet your ass it was a power trip. That photo was meant to humiliate her. Did you not read the original article and her account?

I’m pretty sure some people genuinely believe the fun, funny, fun-lovin’ Joe Biden of The Onion is the Joe Biden of, you know, reality.

It sounds like he feels bad about it and genuinely isn’t sure what happened.

He ruined it with the misremembering part though. No way does she forget a second of an encounter like that. But instead he showed himself to be just another spineless bigot.

Nah it’s bullshit, an apology with a disclaimer (especially a bullshit one), is not a sincere apology. I would imagine that literally everyone who has had to say ‘I swear I’m not racist’, is likely racist, if only at a subconscious level.

Saying they can’t remember or calling you a liar is most people’s automatic reaction when being called out for past bad behaviour. It’s VERY rare someone says “Oh yeah, I was a real piece of shit and treated you horribly.”

A better way for him to express the same thing:

On the other hand, he both claims that he doesn’t remember and that she doesn’t remember. I don’t know how you reconcile those two statements.

she remembers word for word a conversation she had a decade ago with a guy who is friends with her then (current?) boyfriend

I was sort of OK with his apology until he said, “maybe we were both misremembering,”.

It is really common for bullies to not remember what they have done because it doesn’t mean anything to them. They were “just having fun” and weren’t the one who was traumatized. I have read several accounts of people who confronted their high school or junior high tormentors, and the people often don’t even remember…

Of course he says he doesn’t remember anything. Why would he? When you are a famous person meeting a non-famous person, it’s far more likely that the interaction would just fade into the background of your memory, as opposed to when you are a non-famous person meeting a famous person. In 2007 I shook Barack Obama’s…

I am not exactly surprised that a guy who released a stand-up album called “Shut Up You Fucking Baby” might be a bit of a bully.

I just wonder if she’s afraid because she has already tried and been shut down. (Yes, she should leave, but it takes a lot to get to that point.)

Interesting take. But nah.

Upon further reflection, no. Just no.

If I was asked to find a cleaning service, I would probably find one. But I’m better than most people. She gave him a task, she really wanted done but really had no idea if he could do it. It just seems counterintuitive.

I’d definitely like to hear your explanation about this.

A lot of women are afraid of the rejection that comes with articulating heartfelt needs/ desires, etc. Yeah speaking up for yourself is great & all, but there are consequences that come w/ being about that life- gotta be prepared to handle it.

Ok, you also missed the point. Why does there have to be a ‘confrontation’ about shit that men should just know how to do because they are ADULTS. She’s afraid because men aren’t shit and she knows that even with a really good man, bringing this up is going to start some shit. Why does she have to start some shit just…