I used to like Grimes’ music and have a sort of fondness for her in spite of all the hippie bullshit, but now have fully lost that fondness to the point where I’m not sure I can enjoy her music for a while. If the relationship really was that short...hope you got something out of it, girl! Fairly certain it can’t have…

You know the old saying I just made up: it’s only murder if it looks suspicious.

Oh my god that’s AMAZING! Go you and go sleep !!

a “medical condition that made him lose his temper and senses.”

First of all, congrats on the bebeh.

“6am to 8am” is in no way acceptable. I hope you meant 8pm, because if not, please find someone to knock some sense into him. I’m so sorry you’re also dealing with a major loss, while trying to enjoy, learn and navigate your new life with a child. It’s easy for me to say “he needs to be more supportive” but since I…

It took me a long time to realize that my husband just didn’t see the amount of work that needed to be done for our children. It’s not that he saw it and ignored it, it just never occurred to him that, say, you need to change the sheets in the crib.

This is a cliche, but its a cliche for a reason. Many men really, REALLY don’t know what they should do unless you spell it out. Explicitly, like you’re speaking to a child. My husband was great at doing what I needed him to do re: childcare once I told him what I needed. He’s truly bad at hints, and its not his…

...I love reading the comments of people who have not heard the full story and think it’s typical emotional labor stuff or you’re just depressed and exaggerating.

Give yourself permission to do stuff like the bath. Say you’re doing it, go in there and lock the fucking door. Force him to deal if he won’t come along willingly. This whole scenario will teach him how parenting is going to be and I promise you, this is the hill to die on.

Read this (it will validate what you’re feeling) and then make HIM read it:

I find illustrating - and LOGGING - the basics of what is expected of him, in writing, along with a thorough explanation of “emotional labor” helps... they often have no good role model or frame of reference for their new job in life and need a few come-to-jesus moments before it sinks in... though my husband and I do …

I hope you at least going to a restaurant you love!

Are you gonna lay down the law for him over dinner?

I know! I was about to eat some ice cream and sit in front of the air conditioner. The humidity and rain have just been nonstop here for three weeks. 

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I’m not sure that one can say it’s “nice” to be told that one’s voice isn’t worthwhile unless it’s being presented for consumption. Why is it that people think the entertainment industry is some separate category in which the normal rules of courtesy do not apply?

I like that some of the answers were based on the idea that you just have to be there for the last bit where the baby pops out. Maybe you weren’t there for the labor but you can always claim you were there for the birth.

I work in reality tv, in post-production, and I say that exact phrase ALL. THE. TIME. I’m usually having a frustrated imaginary hypothetical conversation with my field producer. So often, the field will, either intentionally or unintentionally, tell my bosses about something that happened off camera,and that…

I really enjoyed the comment about the waffle recipes.