Yes, I was an early developer and when I really started sprouting boobs and hips (around age 12) my mom started policing what I wore out of the house. And "slut shaming" had nothing to do with it - she was responding to seeing grown men ogling my body. She knew the world was unsafe enough for young girls and she…
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Yeah. I agree that him wearing the shorts doesn't really make a point, but I also don't really have a huge problem with this. Growing up, I wasn't allowed to wear super short skirts, get any facial piercings, or wear clothing that said offensive things, because my parents thought that was inappropriate. Totally fair.…
Agreed.
I think it's entirely appropriate, while you're responsible for your child's welfare, to make judgement calls (within reason, of course) about what they're wearing, where they're going, and who they're hanging out with. I don't have children, but to the best of my knowledge, that's what a parent is supposed to…
This is not an example of censorship. Read more books.
Unicorns are a myth. Rape culture is a thing.
I'm not sure that the feminist message is really "rape is wrong, rapists are bad." The "rape is wrong" bit, absolutely. But I don't hear the "rapists are bad" part all that much.
Who cares what they SAY they believe? They'll say anything after the fact to get off.
Yup. The perpetrators prey on empathy and they have no empathy for the people they dehumanize by pushing into the "gray area."
Ignorance of the law is not an excuse for breaking the law.
Also, rape cases are not usually "he said/she said". I don't know where people have gotten that impression (TV shows trying to create drama and conflict?), but if you do a proper investigation with competent interviewers/interrogators, you can usually get a pretty good idea of what happened. A more accurate…
I think this was kinda my attitude when I first started this work...before I actually started interacting with real rapists. Now that I've seen hundreds of them go through my office, and learned how persistent personality traits are...I've learned that empathy is exactly what many of them either consciously (if…
But what about the fact that criminals' minds (rapists' especially) often ignore cues from other people that indicate pain or displeasure? Do you think that just because some guys can't see that a woman doesn't want to have sex with him until someone really points it out (and even after that...they still find…
While George Carlin is no philosopher-saint, I'm reminded of one of his bits where he talks about euphemistic language or "soft" terms that lessen the impact of a word that needs to be paid attention to. He talked about how Shell Shock has been dehumanized to phrases like "combat fatigue" "operational exhaustion" and…
Rape is about humiliation, subjugation, and degradation. Videotaping the act and disseminating the video for others to see "enhances" the rape. The widespread "rape and tape" phenomenon is the ultimate argument against the ill-advised notion that rape is about sex, or "horniness" — it's about power, and asserting…
yep. The problem is that perpetrators don't consider it a heinous crime. They've got entitlement problems - or - have watched so much gangbang porn that the physical act is somehow normalized in their minds.
Kind of unrelated (I don't have a good suggestion other than better parenting) but I once read the explanation of homophobia as "being afraid that men will treat you the way you treat women". Thought it was quite apt.
the amount of thank yous the girls nervously give is astounding. social conditioning for the win. "thank you for invading my space and making me feel uncomfortable, but i'm conditioned to think that all attention from men is acceptable"
I am a man from one of those cultures were people touch and kiss each other when greeting (Brazil), but a couple of fun facts:
Ha, yes, I'm sure Joe Strummer is rolling in his grave as we speak.