Sounds like she's got some self esteem issues. Not saying she's not responsible for the decisions she makes, but people who value and love themselves generally don't go for pricks.

I totally agree, but this goes both ways.

I just want to point out that as a divorce lawyer he should support all unions, and then give you his business card rather than scare you away from staying together in the first place :p

That's just the sweetest. Thank goodness they had those last days and moments together.

She does that a lot with us too. We offer to take extra custody time with stepson because my son and fiance's son get along pretty well and they enjoy time together, plus fiancé enjoys seeing his son. She says no, and it's not because they have plans or something.

Absolutely. She's the typical woman who thinks "the next step" will save the relationship and everything will fix itself with time. "Maybe he'll be better after we get engaged. He'll become more responsible and mature when we're more serious, and we'll be kinder to each other once he sees I'm now The One." *They get…

I met Mr. Bells a year after his wife left. SHE did the leaving. And yet she dragged her feet for two+ years over the divorce papers. She was baffled that he was going to be getting remarried before she was (her online boyfriend didn't work out).

Butthurt, jealous people. It took me a long time to realize jealousy IS the main reason why people are dicks to one another.

My now-husband and I went to a birthday party for one of his friends. Her uncle is apparently a divorce lawyer and on finding out we were engaged proceeded to tell us all the terrible statistics. What an ass.

Oh my goddess, I totally mis-read that at first thinking you were saying you were the single mother of a 5 year old fat chick and I gasped! Then I laughed at myself. Then I was really happy for you. And I agree, I know tons of awesome dudes.

1) I didn't take her husband. He filed for divorce well before we started dating. She had it in her head that they were going to get back together (and even told their son, "Bob", as much) and when we started dating, I blew her fantasy out of the water making myself the perfect target.

Be a little patient with her. She was abused and traumatized and probably lived her life by his rules, it's no wonder that she's had a hard time since the divorce. She's having to face the world on her own and figure out who she is.

Totally, which is why talking about how couples "stuck it out" 60 years ago is stupid!

No-fault divorce is the shit. Can you imagine being a sexless marriage and not being able to get divorced? Or if your spouse was constantly berating you, but never actually laid a hand on you? Because that's what it was like before no-fault divorce. I, for one, am very happy that people can choose to get divorced for…

I don't know if this helps, but...

Ugh, that's one of my worst peeves.

I don't understand why divorce hits some people like it's the end of the world, especially when they were super unhappy in the relationships. My sister had a horrible marriage. Her husband was verbally and emotionally abusive, I suspect he was phyisically abusive at one point because of little things I noticed like…

Every single person who is going through a break up or divorce needs to stop dishing out bitter advice to singles and SHUT UP. After my sister got a divorce she hates life, men and love. She says things like "All men are THE SAME. All men are horrible. Love is not real. Marriage is stupid." I was dating this really…

I hate when "good old days" is used in any argument. The "good old days" sucked, people. Basically, it ALWAYS sucks. There's always good shit and bad shit in life. End of story. Stop looking backwards with rose colored glasses.

This article was brutal, and I couldn't even figure out what his "points" had to do with marriage specifically. They could apply to any dysfunctional couple.