My rapist sent me a friend request on facebook, and when I declined it, he messaged me saying something along the lines of “I was hoping we could both just move on already and be civil.” I then deleted my facebook and haven’t looked backed.

So my advice is to block that fucker’s number. You don’t owe an explanation,…

...wait until the wound ALMOST heals, and do it again...

The second man to rape me, a man I have known for 2 years, has been texting this week, asking to meet up and talk, so he can explain his ‘side of things.’ He doesn’t understand my refusal and my anger.

Are you kidding me? Where did you grow up to have so much faith in law enforcement? Do you actually know what happens to women who report rape? Do you understand the secondary trauma of being questioned, accused and violated all over again? Where I grew up the police were the ones we were afraid of. It never crossed…

Kissell13 said, “All of your rapists? How many police reports were made. How many did you report to anyone. If that answer is ZERO, then no one feels sorry for you.” 

Its a troll. Don’t respond. It ungrays them.

Um, when I assault people I always cloak myself in honeyed pastry.

As we all know, a woman reporting a rape to police (especially a black woman) always has that report treated with respect and empathy. The police always conduct a full, competent and thorough investigation which finds the rapist, who is duly convicted and given an appropriate prison sentence. Rape kits are always…

Man its almost like this is a complex and nuanced issue that can cause deep layers of trauma and, paired with the association with the rapist, a whole lot of confusion.

But yeah, just reduce it down to basic shit because you are a basic poop-ass fuckboy.

Hey, go fuck yourself ok?

I saw the reply to you. This person is a multiple-incident survivor. You should be ashamed of yourself, if that’s even possible for you.

There were two incidents. 15 (one guy)and 17 (six guys).

For saying “No, I’m not interested” – a WOC in London got a champagne bottle broken over her head, a PA WOC who was out with her kids got threatened with a gun, and a young DC WOC got shot at point blank range after bruh decided to circle back and shoot her.

Then they get angry and verbally abuse you simply because you’re not interested. I once had a guy pull a gun on me because I told him to back off, I wasn’t interested.

Yep. We spend do much time warning about Stranger Danger when the danger is already amongst you.

This is the logical fallacy of assuming most rapes are stranger rapes, most women are too wary of men to let some random catch them off guard like that. Rape is about power and control and for most rapists the level of power and control they seek would be impossible to obtain with a woman they didnt have some sort of…

This x 1000. I grew up with a great uncle in my family who raped at least 2 of his sons and possibly a 3rd on top of molesting or attempting to molest several other family members, myself included. Damn near everyone has a “funmy uncle” but like you said, dudes love to act ignorant as fuck on the subject.

*balaklavas

Truth. All of the men who have abused me were people I knew. Family, friends etc. These same men also don’t think they did anything wrong.

When it comes to talking about sexual assault, I’ve noticed that men (in some cases, I’ve heard some things from fellow women), hold onto this notion that rapists are strangers in baklavas and holding knives. But, when I mention that all of my rapists were men that I grew up with, they consider me to be the exception.