One of my cousins married a South Asian lawyer and they had a wedding celebration that went on for three days. Hindu ceremony the first day, Christian ceremony second day, straight up party third day, complete with Bollywood dancers and drummers. I wished it would never end! I have never seen more beautiful clothes…

My 4 year old asked me for an older sister yesterday. My husband asked him if he had a time machine.

Counterpoint: lots of indians also see saris as pretty things. They are pretty much daily wear in India, worn to the office, big events, temple etc. lots of women (like my mama) despise wearing saris all the time because they are cumbersome and trap heat. I have never worn one even though i am 30 years old and i don’t…

Hon, I’ve been a single mom for ten years. Taking care of one child is infinitely easier than taking care of a child and a manchild and breeds far less resentment. If you can get the money and childcare angles sorted, don’t waste your time with the personal maidservice. And in the meantime, stop doing his work for…

Shocker - a mom who makes lists, does Internet research, befriends and observes other mothers, and then applies what she’s learned on a daily basis is generally seen as a good mother. Just like you learn and excel at any other job.

You should block him. What a creep. People who can't take a hint scare the shit out of me.

More methodologically bungled evo psych baloney.

Someone let the notorious bullies of my Grade School/Jr. High days know about all this:

Hang on to your butts, folks! I’m about to rip this paper apart.

All of my mean girl bullies from middle school (which btw is just Lord of the Flys with more adult supervision) ended up on meth and/or have several kids and no way to support them. Now I’m no sex machine ready to explode like an atom bomb, but I certainly came out of my 25 year awkward phase and resemble a human…

i feel like such an old

It’s hilarious that you think that I’m 1) in need of a job, and 2) eager to work in the kind of place that employs crusty old sexists like you who get off on reprimanding young women for existing.

You know you sound like a cranky old man, right? This is how young people talk now. It is not a big deal.

You’ve heard them talk like that, you just didn’t register them as “sounding like that” because many of the negative associations we have with it are deeply gendered.

And yet no one accuses Ira Glass of sounding like a Kardashian.

Nope. This is something that BOTH men and women do. But ONLY women are penalized and criticized for it. It’s not because it “sounds terrible.” It’s because sexism.

its about this subset of powerless white men believing they are entitled to power, and that they need to do anything to get it (speaking specifically about mass shootings here, not inner-city gun issues which is really a completely different problem)

And for the love of god, did he have marijuana in his system? Because that is another completely relevant factor in situations like this.

Cops say he has “minor criminal offenses” on his record

Who fucking cares? Seriously. Who. Fucking. Cares.