wow, thanks so much, that really means a lot to me. not only was he a lover, but oddly enough my best friend too, as messed up as that is. so it's doubly lonely. yeah, it's like i'm starting fresh to rebuild from scratch. so glad you got through your tough times, it gives me hope. —hugs—

Yes. this. 100%. it's crazy-making to be around it.

Wow, I am so so sorry this happened to you too. It is not your fault, men like my and your ex are EXPERTS at deception, they get off on fooling people, blaming the exes, creating this whole vortex of destruction then walking away like nothing happened. They prey on women who are naturally trusting, loving people with…

wow, thanks so much for sharing this with me. It really helps to know that it is a process and, wow, yeah, I do really need to forgive myself for all of it, for holding on to someone so toxic for me. I blocked everything of his, changed the locks, but oh lord I just want to call him up right now and beg him back,…

Thank you, this is wonderful advice. I love that you took a trip and it was all yours, making memories that don't involve him. It is very difficult, as I am financially in quite dire straits and cannot afford to take time off of work (and I work 3 jobs, 7 days a week), I also have no vehicle, but I pray that the…

Thank you, therapy does wonders. i am keeping you in my prayers and thoughts and holding both of us in the light of the universe's infinite love.

Wow, this is so beautiful. Thank you for support and understanding.

thanks so much, you are so sweet. it comes in waves, the sadness, so unexpectedly. PS: and I love your name, joyflower.

I am so sorry you are going through a breakup too. It is hard to see that there is more happiness in this life without this relationship, even when you know that it was a relationship that needed to end. And I hate feeling lonely. Interesting you mentioned therapy, because I have had a couple of therapy sessions, and…

Thanks so much, that's so wonderful that you were able to get through this too. It gives me hope.

Thank you so much. Yeah, there are feelings of guilt, I deserved better than I got and settled for such rotten treatment. I don't feel like I'm free at all, even though I realize that it was for the best. Just today i erased all his emails, all his photos, all his facebook posts, blocked his facebook, blocked his…

Yeah, funny, this man was emotionally abusive, controlling, manipulative, and lied so much he believed his own lies were true. He was also charming and so sweet and really generous at times. Ugh. I really can't believe how foolish I was to date him at all. I wish I had enough self-love to attract better people in my…

Yes, so true. Wish I had known that. My ex told me when we were together all about the psycho bitch that ruined his life. I believed it. Now, I learned that to his new girl I have been described by him as the psycho bitch that ruined his life. Red flag indeed.

Thank you so much for this article. As someone who just extricated herself very painfully from a very abusive and unhealthy relationship, I really needed to read this. Staying in this relationship would have really been very bad for my emotional and mental and physical health. But leaving it hurts so so much, and I…

I'm so sorry about the breakup. That really sucks, even when you know it's for the best. I too just went through a breakup a few weeks ago, and I HATE the dating scene, so I've just been taking myself out and doing fun things by myself, like going out dancing or to film festivals or what-not. But still, it hurts when…

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SO SO sorry. I just got through a bad breakup with my boy, and it hurts like hell. It's ok to feel hurt and angry, those are healthy and normal feeling to have. Just keep writing, reaching out to understanding and non-judgmental friends. It hurts like hell to invest yourself so completely in someone to have them…

Why be bitter? She might be beautiful, but obviously her self esteem is shot to hell, and why would you ant to be with a gorgeous girl with no self worth enough to demand she be treated with respect. Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.

I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, so there are always places to go every night of the week. Mondays is my favorite, they have a club called DNA and they do 'gothic' night. It is THE most ridiculously fun time ever: the outfits are outrageous, the dancing is absolutely breathtaking, and everyone is there to dance,…

Yay! I'll be thinking of you when I go dancing on monday! Go us!